Saturday, December 31, 2011

TOF [Part 3]

The Building Blocks by Sh.'Alaa Elsayed

In this speech, sheikh 'Alaa talked about how we can build a strong nation.How we form a strong nation, a solid individual,more importantly a good Muslim is like developing a building,a 'bangunan'. One must have the right structure, the right bricks,tools and materials so that it won't disassemble right after being built.

So, how to build?

Get the right foundation. We must have a good foundation in order to build a beautiful ummah. What are needed? Iman and amal. Gain knowledge and put it into action.

Briefly saying: Boost our Iman with 'ilm,with prayers and express it through amal. By obeying His orders, leaving His warnings,do good deeds, help others. You don't keep it to yourself hoping that you may enter Jannah alone.Nay it doesn't work like that. Fahimtu? :)

Sheikh also mentioned, ONE BRICK at a time. Jangan dok kalut nak buat semua,karang yang dikejar tak dapat,yang dikendong berciciran. [read: don't rush into doing things. You don't want to lose what you have while chasing what you want more]  (wah pandainya mentranslate ikut dannn je :p)

The nation starts with the younger generation and also the future soon to come. Those future generation that will help build back the nation have their own rights under the parents responsibility. Their rights are there even before they are born.

The rights for the unborn child is even before the parents get married, HOW?!It's by CHOOSING the right partner [read: husband or wife-to-be]

A lady trying to find her future husband should look into 3 criterias:

1) STRONG [in terms of faith, religious stance, knowledge,etc]
2)TRUSTWORTHY [has that passion equipped in him that when he has a family,he will lead them to jannah]

While a guy finding his future wife should look into:

Beauty+wealth+lineage+deen BUT the best of them are those who possess strong DEEN.

Later on,while raising them, adults should pay attention to these matters:

*They imitate us as adults so be careful what we show them. A dad who smokes at home,in front of his children can't be mad when his son is caught smoking at school or elsewhere.
*Listen to what they hum. Are they continuously humming to the lyrics of Justin Bieber,Selena Gomez or SNDS or whatever? Make sure they are humming the right tune: ZIKRULLAH,QURANIC RECITATIONS.
*Look at who their friends are
*Look at how we speak with them. Don't compare them with other kids because this will demotivate them in the long run of growing up.

"Be careful with words, they hurt more than a physical wound"

Talk about look at whom their friends are, we could also practice it in our current life:

1) If you see them, they always remind you of Allah
2)They guide you with their lifestyle
3)When they speak, their words always remind you of the hereafter and supplies that we need to bring with us. I guess one wins when they succeeds to do that and not even noticed by their friends as being too preachy. Not everyone is comfortable being around an ustaz/ustazah and totally acts like one all the time. You can be fun at the same time guide them. Be creative in this matter!

The best of nations were in the times of Prophet Muhammad S.A.W so go back to their era by reading back the seerah. Remember who we are, whom our ancestors were, the best of nation.

I end my note with:


Wallahu a'lam,

I apologize if my notes are not up it's par as what Sheikh had delivered but inshaAllah I've covered the gist of it. Allahu musta'an.

ps: I didn't proofread this entry so please bear with the terrible errors,LOL *peace ^^*

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Twins of Faith 2011 [A truly cherished moment]

It's been two days since the event ended and I can't seem to get over the fact that it has ended.

It was truly an amazing experience to be among the participants of that mashaAllah great event.

Come to think of it, I was never the type of person who would spend money to attend talks as there are so many free talks being held here and there [just have to embrace it] but how beautiful Allah has arranged it for me so that I could register and attend that event :)

At first when I saw the announcement in FB, I quickly informed AK and some other friends and alhamdulillah AK told me that she and her family will be joining so I was responsible for the booking. From the day I made payment, I wasn't aware of how the event would touched me and the other people who came :D

Strangers gathered at PICC,Putrajaya, Muslims, Non-Muslims [Allahu akbar!], locals and also international for so many reasons, but one thing's for sure, all were touched,emotionally  [or...was it just me?]

I don't want to elaborate the content of the talks in this post as I will continue my series of TOF [Part 3, 4, 5, so on inshaAllah] but I do know one thing. As like what Sheikh Yahya Adel Ibrahim said [in my own words]: " There will be two kinds of people who will leave this hall; one whom gained knowledge and felt the need to share it with others and the other one who came and left without nothing and inshaAllah all of you will be the former group"

Everything was up to it's level. The venue was great, the speakers were fantastic! Their speech, their punctuality, their akhlaq of addressing the speeches, the content, the mother's room [which I went to perform my solat since the surau area was FULL alhamdulillah], the hall [Plenary Auditorium, ladies were seated at Level 3 while gentlemen at Level 2], the booths, the food area  [me and AK didn't take our lunch at Day 1 due to limited space and food but it was successfully improved during Day 2 where they changed the venue and had 3 separate buffet corners for us to buy our foods!]. I was also captivated by the view of ladies coming with their abayas and also the guys with their garments too [though it was obvious they weren't local guys,LOL] till it felt I was attending an International Conference at a foreign country...tehee loving it! I also loved seeing how the ladies made effort to perform solah anywhere and not just limit themselves to the surau, some even prayed in the hall itself! Ok, I already felt like I was in UK.

Credits to the committees and volunteers who did their job very well. They managed to keep a distance between men and women especially on the seating terms. Only family with little children were able to seat together :D. The lady volunteers all wore black abayas and it was a very pleasant sight  [and someone also took me for a volunteer,LOL].

Mishaps did occur but it was on a minor scale. I guess the sisters' only workshop should be held at a larger venue because many couldn't enter the hall. There was a marriage matrimony workshop for both single male and female [kinda like BM thingy kot] but ofcourse I didn't register  [eventhough AK told me to :p]

I also managed to meet some schoolmates and my dear Mdm.Azimah =).

Now, some pictures:

opening quranic recitation by one the the Akademi Quran members. [forgot the name]

You Are The Best of Nations by Sh.Yahya Adel Ibrahim

The Building Blocks by Sh.Alaa Elsayed

Boona Mohammed doing his thing :)

gloomy weather outside but a refreshing aura inside

Beautiful yet confusing Putrajaya


Sh.Navaid Aziz, his talk touched me personally

Workshop with UZAR: Family Finance

Workshop with Dr.Alini: Effective Parenting using the Khalifah Method

Sh.Tawfiq Choudary, the founder of Mercy Mission



Workshops: me and AK attended the Challenges of a working Mom, Family Finance, Women in the Eyes of God, Struggling to be a better Muslimah and Parenting method :)

All in all, TOF has touched my heart and made me "feel alive" again,ALHAMDULILLAH ^^

I'm really hoping for lots of TOF more to come. In the feedback form, I wrote in the "the speakers that you would like to have in the future" names like : Bro Nouman Ali khan, Sis Yasmin Mogahed, Bro Yusuf Estet, and Baba Ali for the entertainer along with the speakers who came this year...they were absolutely great! May Allah reward them all with jannah,ameen.

Monday, December 26, 2011

TOF [Part 2]

 You Are The Best of Nations [by Sh.Yahya Adel Ibrahim]

Islam is a beautiful religion and we as Muslims are the official ambassadors for promoting it. How should we show the best of our religion to others?

By portraying the best of character. How do we do that? By implementing simple steps but continuously like:

-smile when you meet people ^___^
-greet each other
-be the best of friends
-offer help when you see someone in need  [even if you think it is beyond your capabilities but you sincerely try to help a person in need, Allah will help you not only in this duniya but also in the hereafter]

Gain knowledge and put it into practice

-Put an effort to gain knowledge and put it into action. This is not only the supply for this worldly life but also for the hereafter inshaAllah. By practicing it, we will reflect the beauty of religion to others bi'iznillah =).

Be steadfast, be gentle, be wise in spreading the beauty of Islam and we will be the best of nation inshaAllah.

TOF [Part 1]



25th December 2011,
Workshop [sisters only]
Struggling to be a better Muslimah Everyday [Wardina Safiyyah Fadlullah]

Alhamdulillah praise be to Allah for His blessings and mercy. Alhamdulillah I have been given the chance to attend the awaited program TWINS OF FAITH and alhamdulillah I have been blessed with the best of health.

I will not lie but the two days had met me with the right path again. There are so many to share and I would be very delighted if I could share the knowledge and reminders that I gained with my fellow beloved brothers and sisters in Islam. Just a heads up, I may be spamming this blog with bits and pieces of what I've jotted down from time to time.

The first thing that I would like to share in this post would be the reminder given by the inshaAllah mukminah sis Wardina Safiyyah. Her talk was exclusive for sisters only and the participants were limited but alhamdulillah me,AK,her mom and her lil sister managed to enter the hall. Albeit the fact that she was down with a fever, she still came and gave the best and may Allah bless her. This workshop  [and all the workshops and speeches held] really gave a big impact on me so let's jump right into business shall we?

We were given a pamphlet and a mustard seed each. WHY?

Her topic was about our deeds and its relation with Allah. [I'll update the full title later on]

And We place the scales of justice for the Day of Resurrection, so no soul will be treated unjustly at all. And if there is [even] the weight of a mustard seed, We will bring it forth. And sufficient are We as accountant.  [Al-Anbiya': 47]

The reminder was; whatever our intentions are, whatever our deeds are, big or small, praiseworthy or bad,indeed Allah knows everything even if it were to be the size of a mustard seed. 

Sometimes, we forget to act upon righteousness like for example: we are walking down the street and we see a tinie tiny piece of paper and to our conscious mind we'd say: "alah....kecik je sampah tu bukannya orang nampak pun bla3" [mind you this is my self-made example,not from sis Wardina:D]. In that act alone, we have wasted and given away the reward that Allah has promised us for good deeds EVEN if the act seems...well.....nothing much. 

A sneak peak of the talk  [hey, this is a sisters only event! no worries, the knowledge should be spread ^^ ]

So, after this, I write this to remind myself first, the next time I see the need for me to act upon something, regardless of how small the deed may seem, Allah sees it and will value it for our future "saving's account" inshaAllah.

I came back from the two days program with a reviving knowledge and inspiration alhamdulillah.

I will share more after this inshaAllah.

Allahu musta'an



Friday, December 23, 2011

I like you.....a LOT!

Twins of Faith,
24&25th December 2011

Iman booster, stress reliever, hopefully, inshaAllah


 oh.....coming back to the topic sentence......exercise your fingers and scroll down


carbon copy cuteness :D

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Nasik minyak 2012

I haven't bought a 2012 organizer yet but the wedding dates need to be saved are increasing,LOL

On January itself, two of my SMIH buddies are getting married and I can't miss it ^^. Gosh my friends are all grown up  *tears*

A special dedication for my two sweet buddies:

Soon to be Mrs.Mawa: I was surprised when I received your FB invitation but I kinda sensed it earlier. I'm so happy for you and hope you will be blessed with His sakinah,mawaddah [hey,it's you] wa rahmah in your marriage and may it last until jannah . I'm guessing your man is a very soleh and sporting lad ain't it? Alhamdulillah...for you =)

Soon to be Mrs.Wani: It's finally happening isn't it? After this you can go tour Korea again with your husband right? Don't forget to put UK-Europe in your list...tehee guess we won't be travelling buddies lah kn?hehe rhifat bhi is cool with this though ^^. May your walimah be filled with His sakinah,mawaddah wa rahmah and blessed until jannah,inshaAllah.

Then we have some on March, June and lots on December and those are the ones confirmed, I might be getting more eventually.

So happy for them. Mabrook Mabrook in advance =)


by sis Yasmin Mogahed

exceptionally profound,mashaAllah

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Those Blissful Days

-bestie+baby girl

ustajah majdiyya <3

ustaz majdi :D

-another bestie+examination result+haagen dasz+puss in buts

I don't want the precious moments to fade,hence,this short diary-like entry,lols to diary-like entries.

CATS DANCE FIGHT   [we loved the Ooooh cat!]

So I heard it is snowing already..........................[needs to stock up ice-creamzzz in my freezer and watch home alone again and again and again]



Thursday, December 15, 2011

It's your birthday!

*throws confetti, throws sweets,throws balloon,throws everything!*

menaiki bas terakhir dari dublin airport nak balik ke rumah AK kiteww ;)


May you be blessed by Allah throughout each and every bit of your steps in this journey.

Till jannah we won't be apart, inshaAllah,right?

Much love,
w.s.k  [the currently depressed friend of yours,lol]

Sunday, December 11, 2011


To all those suffering from sadness or depression, know that it isn't your fault. It isn't because you're weak. It isn't because you're just not grateful enough. It isn't because you're just not religious enough. It isn't because you don't have enough faith. It isn't because God is angry with you. To all the well-meaning people who tell you this, just smile. And know deep in your heart that the tests of God come in different forms to different people. And know that, by the help of God, every test can become a tool to get closer to Him. And that, verily, with hardship come ease--and like all things of this world--this too shall pass.

-Yasmin Mogahed

one day I'll read back my posts and laugh away. This too shall pass inshaAllah

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Yakin dengan RezekiNya

Jadi anak-anak, kasih sayang Allah tu banyak lagi luas. Minta, Dia bagi. Tak minta pun juga Dia bagi. Jadi kalau tak dibagiNya tu, sudah pasti banyak yang tak eloknya pada kamu. Jadi, sabar okey?  [Nisa Mohamed,2011]
Dan juga video INI  : Jazakallah Bro N.A.K 
Silap....azam baru sepatutnya ada....tolonglah buang jauh2 sifat pessimistic dan negativity...amaran keras buat diri!
Oh Allah, keep me steadfast on Your path. Make ease for me to achieve my dreams I beg of You,ameen

Monday, November 28, 2011


Gonna sit for a test this Thursday and Saturday, nervous up to the maximum~~~

It's finally happening, the road to achieve my dreams inshaAllah ^^

May Allah ease my path, ameen. If not, maybe another good thing is in store for me. POSITIVE :)

After this, whatever work stress that comes in my way, I shall welcome it with loving hands  *dramatic effect*

Already bought the tickets for Twins of Faith which will be held on the 24&25th December and will be attending it with AK's family,weeee can't waittt :). Too bad bro Nouman Ali Khan will not be one of the speakers T_T

Today is a holiday and I thought I was supposed to work, *double happiness*

Seize the moment.Good or bad. It might not happen again.

May you all be happy wherever you are =)



Saturday, November 26, 2011

one four three three H

Salam Maal Hijrah 1433H ^^

Our NEW YEAR as a Muslim. Not 1 January.

No new wishful thoughts this year. Just hoping for that one wish/dream that I've been longing for, for ages inshaAllah,ameen,ameen,ameen

May I be a better person inshaAllah.

And oh, may people stop asking me that QUESTION. AMEEN

Wednesday, November 23, 2011


I find it highly....ermmm...irrating seeing people of the religion  [golongan celik dan cerdik agama] bashing other people here and there while saying something like "amar ma'ruf nahi munkar" or "say something nice or don't say anything at all"

You're making the commoners confused...

I rest my case here.....or else my name would be next to be bashed!

monologue: when will this project end???

Saturday, November 19, 2011


Has been launched!


Please take a visit and be friends with us in FB! =)


And spread it to your lady friends!  

TQVM!! =)

Friday, November 11, 2011


nice date isn't it?

>>so many are getting engaged and married on this,it's a Friday mashaAllah! Barakallahu lakuma! =)

>>I will be super duper mega busy starting from next week as I'll be involved in a big project under my company...I pray that I'll survive until the very end inshaAllah. Some friends are joining me in this project. Glad that I will have some helping hands  *syukur*

>>Had a doc's appointment and well....Allah knows best

>>The other day I submitted my resume to XXX....I'm not expecting anything besides what He thinks is Best for me, khair.

>>I had a dream a few days back, about my CALL research paper during my undergrad so I was thinking of recycling it for my M.A thesis but the sad thing is, all files in my pendrive have been eaten with no mercy :(....and clever me, never made backups because I didn't care much of online storage files before this. Yes, I was a clueless IT nerd T_T....

ANY recommendations of FREE online storage folders??? Reliable ones.....Kudos if you know any! *throws a candy* =)

>> Sociolinguistics is my major interest but CALL is pretty much related to my current work so it'd be helpful....To be determined when the time comes.

>> I sound so workaholic...Is this a good thing or a bad thing? I even dream about my work,blerghhh~~

>>ok that is all



Monday, November 7, 2011

Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease

Sometimes I feel like letting it all out for the world to know,

But, tell me a person who lives a total carefree life with no problems?

So, I keep it all inside....

إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ‌ يُسْرً‌ا

Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. [94:6]

Narrated Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri and Abu Huraira:

The Prophet said, "No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that." [Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 70, Number 545]

Narrated 'Aisha:

(the wife of the Prophet) Allah's Apostle said, "No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even though it were the prick he receives from a thorn." [Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 70, Number 544]


Saturday, November 5, 2011

Jom bertakbir! =)

 اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ، لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ الله ُ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ وللهِ الْحَمْدُ

Tatacara takbir  [kelik]

feeling melancholic this year....especially after I watched the live hajj earlier. I hope I will be given the chance to perform hajj and visit Mecca&Madinah, inshaAllah inshaAllah  ameen!

1st time

We experience a lot of first times in our life, right? The first cry, first milk, first baby-talk,first prayer, first friendship,first defriendship, first ice-cream,first class,first convocation, first work, first WORK STRESS, first DOUBLE WORK STRESS, first IMSONIA due to work stress,LOL  [ok, ok, we get it, the first of EVERYTHING] {red font is not recommended, must avoid it at all times ^^ }

Upon experiencing those first moments, we will encounter a mixed feeling of exhilaration , anxiety, overwhelmed, etc. How do we keep up with it will ensure the ongoing process till the very end. There is no such thing as  I CAN'T DO IT. That's all the negativity doing their naughty act to demotivate us. It's all in our mind. We control it and not vice versa.

It is true that saying is easier than doing., easy to console people with motivational words but when it comes to us, can we really WALK THE TALK?  But, is bittersweet. You have to endure bitterness in order to taste sweetness. [biasanya macam minum kopi tanpa gula..kemudian kita tambah gula secukup rasa,lol]

I, while still being a sane person, should take these 1st experiences as a challenge. We were not wearing running shoes and ready to run on the track when we were born, now do we?

My point is; there's always a first to everything. It depends on how we look at it, how we handle it and how we accept/reject it after considering all the pros and cons wisely. InshaAllah kheir.


Truth be told, the second phrase fits me everytime  but once I step into that "first" thing, I go all out   [till sometimes it kills me, literally] but WHAT DOESN'T KILL YOU MAKES YOU STRONGER  [so I've heard]

Oh cut it short, Don't be afraid to take the first step!  [unless it is a haram thing to do!] and be captivated by the wonders of experience you will gain afterwards! :D

[entry meant to be a motivation for me.....self-motivation mode was activated, oopsie forgot!]

This sunday, 06-11-2011 or 10 Zulhijjah 1432 AH will be, inshaAllah, our Eid Day. The day to remember the event of  Prophet Ibrahim [a.s] when he was ordered by Allah to sacrifice his beloved son Ismail [a.s] and how he was about to do it, wholeheartedly, with the greatest amount of sincerity [ikhlas] and later on, was replaced with the actual animal [for sacrificial]. It was only a test of love MashaAllah. How we are willing to sacrifice everything that we love sincerely with the total confidence that Allah will replace something even better later on.

My sacrifice for this year would be; spending eidul 'adha alone for the first time without my family. InshaAllah =)

I always go off-track....

Bismillah, I wish you all a very blessed Eidul 'Adha!



Monday, October 31, 2011


Allah's beautiful creation that I love the most~~

a comfy space with a cute little window facing the pouring snow outside, a cup of hot coffee, might as well be the next poet ever not it.

courtesy: tumblr

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Sunnah-sunnah di bulan Zulhijjah

Tidak ada amalan soleh yang lebih disukai oleh Allah S.W.T lebih daripada (amalan) pada hari-hari ini (iaitu10 hari bulan zulhijjah). Para sahabat bertanya: Wahai Rasulullah, sekalipun dengan JIHAD di jalan Allah?".Rasulullah SAW menjawab, "Sekalipun dengan jihad. Kecuali jika seseorang keluar dengan dirinya dan hartanya dan tidak kembali lagi (mati syahid)". [Hadis riwayat Bukhari]

Sunnah-Sunnah Di Bulan Zulhijjah


a) Berpuasa di hari Arafah/9 Zulhijjah:

عَن بَعْضِ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، قَالَتْ : كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَصُومُ تِسْعَ ذِي الْحِجَّةِ وَيَوْمَ عَاشُورَاءَ وَثَلَاثَةَ أَيَّامٍ مِنْ كُلِّ شَهْرٍ أَوَّلَ اثْنَيْنِ مِنَ الشَّهْرِ وَالْخَمِيسَ

Beberapa isteri nabi s.a.w berkata: Nabi s.a.w sering berpuasa pada sembilan Zulhijjah, hari Asyura, dan tiga hari setiap bulan, Isnin awal setiap bulan dan hari Khamis [Sunan Abi Daud: 2085, Shaikh al-Albani mensahihkannya]

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ….، صِيَامُ يَوْمِ عَرَفَةَ أَحْتَسِبُ عَلَى اللَّهِ أَنْ يُكَفِّرَ السَّنَةَ الَّتِي قَبْلَهُ ، وَالسَّنَةَ الَّتِي بَعْدَهُ …..

Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Puasa Arafah, aku berharap agar Allah menghapuskan dosa setahun sebelumnya dan setahun selepasnya [Sahih Muslim:1983]

b) Menyembelih korban

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ، أَنّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ : مَنْ كَانَ لَهُ سَعَةٌ وَلَمْ يُضَحِّ ، فَلَا يَقْرَبَنَّ مُصَلَّانَا

Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a bahawa Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Sesiapa yang mempunyai keluasan (harta) tetapi tidak menyembelih korban, maka janganlah dia mendekati tempat solat kami. [Sunan ibn Majah:3122, Shaikh al-Albani menyatakan ia hasan]

c) Membanyakkan amal ibadah pada sepuluh hari pertama Zulhijjah

عَنْ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ، قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : مَا مِنْ أَيَّامٍ الْعَمَلُ الصَّالِحُ فِيهِنَّ أَحَبُّ إِلَى اللَّهِ مِنْ هَذِهِ الْأَيَّامِ الْعَشْرِ ” فَقَالُوا : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَلَا الْجِهَادُ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : ” وَلَا الْجِهَادُ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ إِلَّا رَجُلٌ خَرَجَ بِنَفْسِهِ وَمَالِهِ فَلَمْ يَرْجِعْ مِنْ ذَلِكَ بِشَيْءٍ

Ibn ‘Abbas r.a berkata: Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Tiada hari yang mana amal soleh pada hari itu lebih dicintai Allah daripada sepuluh hari (awal Zulhijjah). Para sahabat bertanya: Ya Rasulullah, tidak juga jihad di jalan Allah? Baginda s.a.w menjawab: Tidak juga jihad di jalan Allah melainkan jika seorang lelaki itu keluar dengan nyawa dan hartanya, dan dia tidak pulah (terbunuh). [Sunan at-Tirmizi: 687, Imam at-Tirmizi berkata: Hadis ini Hasan Sahih Gharib]

d) Melakukan solat hari raya di Musolla/tanah lapang

عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ ، قَالَ : ” خَرَجَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي أَضْحَى أَوْ فِطْرٍ إِلَى الْمُصَلَّى

Daripada Abu Sa;id al-Khudri r.a, Rasulullah s.a.w keluar ke musolla/tanah lapang pada hari raya Aidiladha dan Aidilfitri [Sahih al-Bukhari: 296]

e) Membanyakkan takbir bermula pada satu Zulhijjah sehingga Asar 13 Zulhijjah.
وَقَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ وَاذْكُرُوا اللَّهَ فِى أَيَّامٍ مَعْلُومَاتٍ أَيَّامُ الْعَشْرِ ، وَالأَيَّامُ الْمَعْدُودَاتُ أَيَّامُ التَّشْرِيقِ . وَكَانَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ وَأَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ يَخْرُجَانِ إِلَى السُّوقِ فِى أَيَّامِ الْعَشْرِ يُكَبِّرَانِ ، وَيُكَبِّرُ النَّاسُ بِتَكْبِيرِهِمَا . وَكَبَّرَ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَلِىٍّ خَلْفَ النَّافِلَةِ .

Ibnu ‘Abbas berkata, “Berzikirlah kalian kepada Allah pada hari-hari yang ditentukan iaitu 10 hari pertama Zulhijah dan juga pada hari-hari tasyriq.” Ibnu ‘Umar dan Abu Hurairah pernah keluar ke pasar pada sepuluh hari pertama Zulhijah, lalu mereka bertakbir, lantas manusia pun ikut bertakbir. Muhammad bin ‘Ali pun bertakbir setelah shalat sunnah. [Dikeluarkan oleh Bukhari tanpa sanad (mu’allaq), pada Bab “Keutamaan beramal di hari tasyriq”]

Takbir terbahagi kepada dua. Takbir Mutlaq-bermula pada awal Zulhijjah sehingga Asar 13 Zulhijjah. Ia boleh dilakukan pada bila-bila masa. Dalilnya di atas

Takbir Muqayyad- takbir yang dilaungkan selepas solat fardhu. Ia dilakukan bermula pada Subuh 9 Zulhijjah, dan berakhir pada selepas Asar 13 Zulhijjah. Dalilnya ialah: Daripada Ali bin Abi Thalib radiallahu ‘anhu, bahawa beliau bertakbir setelah solat Subuh pada 9 Zulhijjah sampai Asar 13 Zulhijjah. Beliau juga bertakbir setelah Asar. [Musannaf Ibn Abi Syaibah & Al-Baihaqi. Shaikh al-Albani mensahihkannya]

f) Tidak Makan Sebelum Solat Raya

عَنِ ابْنِ بُرَيْدَةَ ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ ، أَنّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : ” كَانَ لَا يَخْرُجُ يَوْمَ الْفِطْرِ حَتَّى يَأْكُلَ ، وَكَانَ لَا يَأْكُلُ يَوْمَ النَّحْرِ حَتَّى يَرْجِعَ

Daripada Ibn Buraidah r.a, bahawa Rasulullah s.a.w kebiasaannya tidak akan keluar daripada rumah (untuk pergi mendirikan solat raya) kecuali sehingga telah makan, dan baginda s.a.w tidak makan pada hari raya haji melainkan selepas pulang (daripada solat raya). [Sunan Ibn Majah: 1746, Shaikh al-Albani menyatakan ia hadis sahih]


awkward post is awkward part 2

I'm a happy lass and I kid you not ʘ‿ʘ

I took back part 1

But,still, I need all the prayers from all of you =)

Mode: Soul-searching activated

2012: Please be nice....Bi'iznillah




Saturday, October 22, 2011

be kind to yourself =)

So...yeah...I've been in a slight state of emotional instability for the past few days.

it's a mixture of sugar,spice and everything nice hence the need to burst out happened. Well, not bursting out into tears but more of rage  [which is much more zenjeroos (dangerous)]. I bet that many people ride the same boat as me every once in a while,right? Where everything seem so wrong and out of place and all you want to do is scream or punch someone in the face [wow the visual might be gory :p],JK.

This is also a test by Allah actually,to see whether we are strong enough to control our emotions where we should drive it and not be driven by them. I sincerely admit that I sometimes get carried away  [still improving on it inshaAllah]. But, these tests in a form of emotional wreck are also blessings in disguise you know? One must really feel it to understand it. That's when you find Allah and have a date with Him. Not a quickie one but a long one. Let it out because in the end, there is ONLY HIM the One Who Loves us the Most :)

And, voila, just like magic...inshaAllah you will find yourself at peace and easier to make up your mind in your future requirements.

Just like the pearls of wisdom by Yasmin Mogahed:

When you find yourself getting too attached, too affected by everything around you, its time to take an inner trip alone...with Him. Find your self, but don't embrace it. Transcend it.

And yes, we should motivate and praise ourselves once in a while. This is what I call as, SELF-MOTIVATION

Dear me,

You are a rockstar! woot! woot! XD

awesomemost me <3

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Come and ponder together

by Shazia Ahmad


I understand that hijab is required, and I’ve been wearing it for some time now but I feel like putting it on might have been a mistake.  I don’t feel like it’s made me become a better Muslim, and I feel almost like I’m deceiving people because they look at me as an example even though I’m still struggling with a lot of things. Also, if I take it off, is it really something Allah will punish me for? It seems like such a petty thing. Isn’t the most important thing having a clean heart?

Assalaamu `alaykum dear questioner,

Thank you for asking this question which opens up a number of important issues, and for entrusting us enough to share with us some of what you’re struggling with. I ask Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala – exalted is He) that He makes the words that I write beneficial to you and others who are reading, and that He leads you to the best decisions.

I’d like to start by addressing what I believe is the least important factor in this equation, and that is ‘what other people might think.’ It should never be the case that we alter our practice of Islam or our worship for the sake of other people, or what they might think or assume. People may be quick to judge or jump to conclusions, but whatever thoughts or opinions they have are strictly their responsibility, and not something we should be overly concerned with.

You said that you’re worried that wearing hijab may be deceiving, because people see you as better than you really are. But in truth all of us are sinners, and it is only from Allah’s mercy upon us that He is as-Siteer - the One who veils our faults and our flaws, and makes us seem better than we really are in others’ eyes. One famous scholar said, “If sins had a smell no one would come near me because of the stench!” Every single one of us has deficiencies and weaknesses, has made mistakes, has taken missteps or is presently taking them. We only do the best that we can, and any good deed that Allah grants us the opportunity to perform should be considered a blessing that we take advantage of. Instead of worrying about not being good enough, we can instead consider this as an opportunity to be thankful to Allah for concealing our negatives, and pray, “O Allah, forgive me for what they do not know about me, and make me even better than what they think.”

You will be hard-pressed to find anyone on this earth who can be considered ‘worthy’ of being a representative of Islam, because everyone has one dimension or another in their faith or practice in which they are lacking. However that doesn’t mean we should stop encouraging each other by whatever means are available to us.  There is a very beautiful hadith related to this issue:

Anas relates that, “We asked the Prophet ﷺ, ‘O Messenger of Allah ﷺ, shouldn’t we refrain from calling others to goodness if we don’t practice all good things ourselves, and shouldn’t we refrain from forbidding wrong things until we ourselves have abstained from all the bad?’ ‘No,’ he replied, ‘You should call others to goodness even if you don’t do all good, and you should forbid bad things even if you don’t abstain from all of them yourselves.’” (Al-Tabarani)
Remember that by wearing hijab you are not saying to others ‘I am Islam’, but simply that ‘I am a Muslim’, meaning – I am someone who is trying to follow this religion, who accepts it as truth, sees beauty in it and hopes to beautify myself with it.  I remember a quote attributed to Yusuf Islam: “Islam is not a state of being but it is a process of becoming,” – becoming more, become better, striving to reach that state of perfect submission and connection with Allah Most High, and May He help all of us achieve that, ameen.

You also said that you feel hijab has not really made you a better Muslim. A lot of times when a person first starts performing a good deed they feel an iman ‘rush’, a feeling of happiness at doing something good for the sake of Allah and energy to do more, improve themselves, etc. However, after some time, when that action starts to become just another part of a daily routine, it loses that power, and that increase in iman and excitement dissipates.

What a person needs, instead of focusing on those ‘rushes’, is a steady and constant diet of good deeds and spiritual nourishment. We cannot rely on one particular deed to ‘make’ us better Muslims. Instead, we have to take the reigns and make sure we are doing things regularly that increase us in iman, like recitation of the Qur’an, performing salah with consciousness and focus, dhikr, and so on. Wearing hijab can definitely be one of those things, but it is only one part of a whole that needs to be constructed. Just like exercise is important for good health, yet it has to be combined with eating right and many other things in order for the person to see the desired results in the end.

Also know that there is a direct relationship between a person’s actions and their inner state. We know that when someone is in a high state of iman it’s natural for him or her to start performing more good deeds. However, we may overlook the fact that the opposite is true as well – that just performing good deeds, even if one may not be ‘feeling it’, can affect us and change us. The limbs are inroads, and performing good deeds with them can soften a hardened heart, bring enlightenment to a closed mind, and give a person a feeling of rejuvenation and desire to come closer to Allah and do more positive things. I heard a scholar say that if one is feeling troubled, confused or in a low state of iman, “go quickly to action”; because good deeds can bring about that inner reawakening one may need. If we don’t see a change happening in us when we do a good deed, that doesn’t mean we should stop it but that perhaps we need to supplement it with others in order to gather the momentum needed to see results.

Thirdly, you are absolutely correct when you say that the most important thing is for us to have purified hearts. Allah (swt) emphasizes this in the Qur’an when He states that on the Day of Judgment nothing will be of benefit to the servant except “one who brings to Allah a clean, sound heart” (26:89). The question is, how does one achieve that? What purifies us and cleanses our hearts?''

In our times we find that some people feel that we’ve reached a more ‘enlightened era’ in which spirituality can be derived solely from philosophy and ideas, and need not be bound by rituals and details of religion. However those who propound this notion forget that Allah did not create us as minds and souls alone – but coupled them with our physical bodies. We cannot deny the fact that we are body and soul, content and form, together, and each has its own needs and specifications for refinement. This is a sunnah of Allah in the way that we were created, and why prayer, fasting, and all our spiritual endeavors have very specific physical components. These forms house within them dimensions of meaning, but it is only from enacting them precisely that a profound spirituality can be achieved.

Purifying our hearts is the goal, but the means to reaching that goal is through the very real and specific physical prescriptions and commandments that Allah (swt) has given us. It is through His obedience and through following the teachings of our deen that we clean and polish our hearts. It is for this reason that I have to say that hijab is not something trivial. Anything that leads us to spiritual awareness, elevation, and purification – that helps us come closer to Allah – cannot be considered trivial or petty. Perhaps it is more likely that there are hidden depths within it that we do not perceive, or that we are not putting it in the proper context of its deeper purpose and meaning.

About punishment from Allah: a better way of looking at this issue is not considering the smallness or pettiness of the sin, but the greatness of the One whom we are sinning against. From His infinite wisdom, all-encompassing knowledge and vast mercy, in accordance to His Law – which is at its core about attaining benefit and warding off harm – He has instructed us to perform this action. In the Qur’an Allah says, ‘It may be that you dislike something and in it is goodness for you’ (2:216); ‘It may be that you dislike a thing but Allah brings about from it a great deal of good.’ (4:19) If someone chooses to step away from a prescribed action knowingly, we cannot deny that this is a sin, and that Allah holds us to account for our sins. However we always have hope in and pray for Allah’s mercy and kindness, as we know He can forgive all sins if He chooses.

In closing, I want to leave you with a beautiful quote from a Hadith Qudsi. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala said:

“My servant draws not near to Me with anything more beloved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him.” (Bukhari)

Know, dear questioner, that if you feel far from Allah, the solution is not to stop what you are doing and find a different way, but to persevere and continue on the path you are on, even though it is hard. This will make you beloved to Allah, and one who feels the happiness of being close to Him and being shaded by His Loving Mercy and care.

May Allah enliven and enlighten our hearts and grant us closeness to Him. May He make us people who love to worship Him, and through our worship become close to Him and gain His love. May He make our hearts firm and steadfast on our deen, and grant us strength and bravery in our spiritual struggles. May He guide us to the best decisions and make easy for us the path of khayr [goodness]. Ameen ya Rabb.

WAllahu a`lam – and He alone knows best.

Wasalaamu alaykum.

source: here

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

salamat rahega ye dhosti hamara :)

The four important [scratch that,it's 5!]  people in my life. They may or may not know it but I love them tightly!

Today I want to talk about them. Yes, about you ladies!

AK [she loves pink]

-I think among 4, she's the youngest [coz her birthday is the last]. She has been my friend since form 4. Not only her height is tall but her level of patience is tall too! We don't fight a lot [ the girly-immature-fight tu lerr] because of that patient and easy-going character of hers. She's not picky, loves babies and the whole group of children, she knows how to make her way with people, a bit blur sometimes [ni zaman2 sekolah dulu ye b], cool driver, easily amused by my jokes, doesn't know how to marah people in a garang way. We always like the same thing in most categories with exceptions that is,hohoho. A graduate from DBS [mantap jiddan!] and will be working as an audit assistant
[ mashaAllah so WOW!]. She's going to end her single-hood soon and we will be far [ like so so far away]  from each other once again, this time, don't know for how long T_T.  She's someone you can't help but to love [ please read this in the most decent and halal way :) ]. Saranghae!

Pashuwarya  [she loves green]

-her name used to appear quite often in my previous blog. I started knowing her from matriculation but only became friends in main campus, during our second year if not mistaken. I used to adore her highly in matriculation because she wore the tudung labuh  [something rare for English students]  so I kinda felt the budak-sekolah-agama chemistry [ecewahh katanya :p]. Due to my short-term-memory, I can't recall how we started being friends and close but before you know it, we clicked very well. She is a warm person, loves to laugh, always give naseeha along the line. I think that's her aura. She can go well with many kinds of people without having them feel inferior of their lackness. We share the same likings, hindi! She lost her father while we were in the early third year but she only portrayed patience after that. She loves her baba so very much. I admire her for that. She's the person whom I can do things randomly, despite the fact that I'm a planner person. Yes, she can take that out from me sometimes :p. She also understands me for being a punctual person so she seldom comes late for our meetings :p. Currently, she's residing in her hometown with her family helping her mom at their bakery shop. I pray for her success and hopefully she'll get married soon with her ahjussi :)  [alamakk panjang pulak..hoho]. Saranghae!

ummu majdiyya  [she loves pink]

We go back a long time ago. In 1998. We were in the same class during standard 5 and 6 but we were not close at that time. I should say; not close at all, our relationship was mere classmates. Then we met again in Form 4, still, we weren't close UNTIL we met again during matriculation. We clicked right that instance. Me and her, we've shared so many things. She's kind, lovely, generous when treating good food :D [hint], soft-spoken, loves to laugh, INTELLIGENT, humble, bubbly, LOVES pink a LOT and now she has her own baby pink, her daughter Majdiyya :). We also like the same things with exceptions lah. [ you should know what I mean :p]. We tumblr a lot. The best thing about her is that, although she is married, she never fails to keep in touch with her friends. She always text me when she is not busy so that is supercool for me. And oh, I always seek her help when it comes to arabic or islamic matters. Budak Ilmu Wahyu tu :). Saranghae!

eldee  [she loves yellow]

I don't know where to begin about this strong lady. We were in the same class during matriculation but we weren't that close then. Along the way, we somehow clicked and got close. We had our putus-sambung-putus-sambung friendship back in the good old days  [haha, immature actions I'd say] but now, we are cool and we've known each other's mood so we know how to act accordingly. She's a very very strong lady! Not to mention, super generous! After graduating last year, she took 3 jobs at the same time. We've been living together last year before she continued her Master studies earlier last month but she hangs around at my crib every week [like!]. I'm so worried about her because she is so busy. I'm worried about her health, her safety and the most I could do is pray for her safety and cook something nice when she comes to visit  [or ajak her makan di luar :D]. I hope one day, a fine Muslim guy will take her hands for marriage and treat her well, inshaAllah,ameen. Saranghae!

And...and....not to forget, the cute

Memel [because she likes blue, kan mel kn?hihi]

I knew her from STARP. She was the one who kinda consoled me when I first entered starp [because it was my first time staying at the hostel...hoho] and subhanAllah, we managed to enter BP together. Our close friendship is kinda weird, we don't talk that much but we stay close until now,alhamdulillah. She's a very warm and kind lady. And how bad was I to forget her birthday which was on the 7th of September. She even called me that day but I remembered nothing. Thankfully I've made it up to her by treating her to some YUMMMYNESS three weeks ago and forced her to crash at my crib so we chatted and chatted the whole day. Saranghae!

Uhibbukuma fillah!

Ukhwah fillah abadan abada! :D

May our friendship last until jannah, inshaAllah!

If I die one day, please pray for me okay? :D

Of course, my other friends are also super fun and super awesome!

Monday, October 17, 2011

One year


today marks my one year of employment. Being an in-house translator, is not an easy task. But, nothing comes easy,right? I've had my UPS and DOWNs [more to downs I'd say, ngeee :p] and the thought of quitting, I've had it plentiful of times. But, I managed to survive up to this point and I feel grateful for it :). I won't disclose the dissatisfaction I've encountered...atleast not here :) PLUS dah nama pun kerja...mana leh nak fun fun fun je :p

I miss studying more after working T_T

well, bravo to me :D

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

C-Day [continued]

Yesterday's weather was mashaAllah, extraordinary HOT! pity the little ones and the old parents too. But, for me, albeit the fact that is was super hot and tiring, I am happy because I had the chance to celebrate my friends special day =)

During the ceremony process, I just wandered around collecting back the old memories of being an IIUM student, met two sweet freshies whom one of them I got to know her in tumblr! [awesome people are all there~!haha *vain*].

Around noon-ish, me and two other girls waited for the graduands to exit the main door. Some arab students brought along their 'kompang' and they 'kompang-ed' it upon the exit. Very the kecohh but still, it ignited the mood of celebrating some newlyweds..haha

The crowd was...ofcourse, too crowdy! [looks like I'm not the only one who mintak cuti kerja :p]. Me and Suhaan, we did what we do best, snapping pictures of randomness! *double vain*. I'm bad with birthdays and names so I hope they'll find me to ask for their pictures.

Managed to gather some besties and took their photos together but since, there were too many plus the crowd plus the hot sun, failed to collect as many as possible to take group photos,sobs [takde rejeki]. Nevertheless, I am satisfied with everything, alhamdulillah.

Pity I couldn't meet two important ladies though ; ain senyum & amim bowler :p

Mood: nak konvo lagi! ngehehe...inshaAllah one day :)

So that wraps up my C-Day rants...pardon the terrible grammar. Naah, I don't feel bad at all :p



Sunday, October 9, 2011

C-Day 2011 =)

credits to Hayati Ismail :)   

Tomorrow, 10th October 2011, marks the end of 27th IIUM Convocation Day for students of IRKHS and EDUCATION.

Majority of my susah-senang-bersama friends will be receiving their scroll tomorrow. It's a pity that I could not join them [as in, together lining up before entering the hall, lining up for the stage ceremony and whatnot] because I've had my moment last year,alhamdulillah BUT, I am still going tomorrow [cuti diluluskan syukur alhamdulillah]  just to celebrate their success! And ofcourse I'll be bringing my <3 Suhaan together to capture the sweet moments inshaAllah =).


One down [bachelor's degree], many more to go....Together we shall strive,yeah! :D

And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.

                                                              -Ibn al-Qayyim

Friday, September 30, 2011

They leave but do they come back?

[copied from Yasmin Mogahed's]

Leaving is hard. Losing is harder. So a few weeks ago I asked the question, ‘why do people have to leave each other?’ The answer took me into some of my life’s deepest realizations and struggles. But it has also led me to wonder: After people leave, do they ever return? After something we love is taken from us, does it ever come back? Is loss permanent—or just a means for a higher purpose? Is loss the End itself, or a temporary cure for our heart’s ailments?

There’s something amazing about this life. The very same worldly attribute that causes us pain is also what gives us relief: Nothing here lasts. What does that mean? It means that the breathtakingly beautiful rose in my vase will wither tomorrow. It means that my youth will neglect me. But it also means that the sadness I feel today will change tomorrow. My pain will die. My laughter won’t last forever—but neither will my tears. We say this life isn’t perfect. And it isn’t. It isn’t perfectly good. But, it also isn’t perfectly bad, either.

Allah (glorified is He) tells us in a very profound ayah (verse): “Verily with hardship comes ease.” (Qur’an, 94:5). Growing up I think I understood this ayah wrongly. I used to think it meant: after hardship comes ease. In other words, I thought life was made up of good times and bad times. After the bad times, come the good times. I thought this as if life was either all good or all bad. But that is not what the ayah is saying. The ayah is saying WITH hardship comes ease. The ease is at the same time as the hardship. This means that nothing in this life is ever all bad (or all good). In every bad situation we’re in, there is always something to be grateful for. With hardship, Allah also gives us the strength and patience to bear it.

If we study the difficult times in our lives, we will see that they were also filled with much good. The question is – which do we chose to focus on? I think the trap we fall into is rooted in this false belief that this life can be perfect—perfectly good or perfectly bad. But that’s not the nature of dunya (this life). That’s the nature of the hereafter. The hereafter is saved for the perfection of things. Jannah (paradise) is perfectly and completely good. There is no bad in it. And Jahannam (hell – may Allah protect us) is perfectly and completely bad. There is no good in it.

By not truly understanding this reality, I myself would become consumed by the momentary circumstances of my life (whether good or bad). I experienced each situation in its’ full intensity—as if it was ultimate or would never end. The way I was feeling at the moment transformed the whole world and everything in it. If I was happy in that moment, past and present, near and far, the entire universe was good for that moment. As if perfection could exist here. And the same happened with bad things. A negative state consumed everything. It became the whole world, past and present, the entire universe was bad for that moment. Because it became my entire universe, I could see nothing outside of it. Nothing else existed for that moment. If you wronged me today, it was because you no longer cared about me—not because this was one moment of a string of infinite moments which happened to be tinted that way, or because you and I and this life just aren’t perfect. What I was experiencing or feelings at that instant replaced context, because it replaced my entire vision of the world.

I think in our experiential nature, some of us may be especially susceptible to this. Perhaps that is the reason we can fall prey to the “I’ve never seen good from you” phenomenon which the Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) referred to in his hadith. Perhaps some of us say or feel this way because at that moment, experientially we really haven’t seen good, because our feeling at that instant replaces, defines and becomes everything. Past and present becomes rolled up into one experiential moment.

But, the true realization that nothing is complete in this life transforms our experience of it. We suddenly stop being consumed by moments. In the understanding that nothing is limitless here, that nothing here is kamil (perfect, complete), Allah enables us to step outside of moments and see them for what they are: not universes, not Reality, past and present, just that—a single moment in a string of infinite moments…and that they too shall pass.

When I cry or lose or bruise, so long as I am still alive, nothing is ultimate. So long as there is still a tomorrow, a next moment, there is hope, there is change, there is redemption. What is lost, is not lost forever.

So in answering the question of whether what is lost comes back, I study the most beautiful examples.  Did Yusuf return to his father? Did Musa return to his mother? Did Hajar return to Ibrahim? Did health, wealth and children return to Ayoub? From these stories we learn a powerful and beautiful lesson: what is taken by Allah is never lost. In fact, it is only what is with Allah that remains. Everything else vanishes. Allah (swt) says, “What is with you must vanish: what is with Allah will endure. And We will certainly bestow, on those who patiently persevere, their reward according to the best of their actions.” (Quran 16:96)

So, all that is with Allah, is never lost. In fact the Prophet ﷺ has said: “You will never give up a thing for the sake of Allah (swt), but that Allah will replace it for you with something that is better for you than it.” (Ahmad) Did not Allah take the husband of Umm Salimah, only to replace him with the Prophet ﷺ?

Sometimes Allah takes in order to give. But, it’s crucial to understand that His giving is not always in the form we think we want. He knows best what is best. Allah says: “… But it is possible that you dislike a thing which is good for you, and that you love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knows, and you know not.” (Quran 2:216)

But if something is going to be returned in one form or another, why is it taken at all? Subhan’Allah. It is in the process of ‘losing’ that we are given.

Allah gives us gifts. But then we often become dependent on those gifts, instead of Him. When He gives us money, we depend on the money—not Him. When He gives us people, we depend on people—not Him. When He gives us status or power, we depend on, and become distracted by these things. When Allah gives us health, we become deceived. We think we will never die.

Allah gives us gifts, but then we come to love them as we should only love Him. We take those gifts and inject them into our hearts, until they take over. Soon we cannot live without them. Every waking moment is spent in contemplation of them, in submission and worship to them. The mind and the heart that was created by Allah, for Allah, becomes the property of someone or something else. And then the fear comes. The fear of loss begins to cripple us. The gift—that should have remained in our hands—takes over our heart, so the fear of losing it consumes us. Soon, what was once a gift becomes a weapon of torture and a prison of our own making. How can we be freed of this? At times, in His infinite mercy, Allah frees us…by taking it away.

As a result of it being taken, we turn to Allah wholeheartedly. In that desperation and need, we ask, we beg, we pray. Through the loss, we reach a level of sincerity and humility and dependence on Him which we would otherwise not reach—had it not been taken from us. Through the loss, our hearts turn entirely to face Him.

What happens when you first give a child a toy or the new video game he’s always wanted? He becomes consumed by it. Soon he wants to do nothing else. He sees nothing else. He doesn’t want to do his work or even eat. He’s hypnotized to his own detriment. So what do you do, as a loving parent? Do you leave him to drown in his addiction and complete loss of focus and balance? No.

You take it away.

Then, once the child has regained focus of his priorities, regained sanity and balance, once things are put in their proper place in his heart and mind and life, what happens? You give the gift back. Or perhaps something better. But this time, the gift is no longer in his heart. It is in its proper place. It is in his hand.

Yet in that process of taking, the most important thing happened. The losing and regaining of the gift is inconsequential. The taking of your heedlessness, your dependence and focus on other than Him, and the replacing it with remembrance, dependence and focus only on Him was the real gift. Allah withholds to give.

And so sometimes, the ‘something better’ is the greatest gift: nearnesss to Him. Allah took the daughter of Malik Ibn Dinar in order to save him. He took his daughter, but replaced her with protection from the hell-fire and salvation from a painful life of sin and distance from Him. Through the loss of his daughter, Malik ibn Dinar was blessed with a life spent in nearness to Allah. And even that which was taken (his daughter) would remain with Malik ibn Dinar forever in Jannah.

Ibn ul Qayyim (may Allah be pleased with him) speaks about this phenomenon in his book, Madarij Al Salikin. He says: “The divine decree related to the believer is always a bounty, even if it is in the form of withholding (something that is desired); and it is a blessing, even if it appears to be a trial and an affliction that has befallen him; it is in reality a cure, even though it appears to be a disease!”

So to the question, ‘once something is lost, does it return?’ the answer is yes. It returns. Sometimes here, sometime there, sometimes in a different, better form. But the greatest gift lies beneath the taking and the returning. Allah tells us: “Say, ‘In the bounty of Allah and in His mercy – in that let them rejoice; it is better than what they hoard.’” (Quran, 10:58)