In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Compassionate
*no harms intended*
From Ibn Masood (ra) who said that the Prophet (sas) said:
“Among that which reached the people from the words of the earlier prophethood: If you feel no shame, then do whatever you wish.”
HR Bukhari, Kitab Adab, hadith no. 6120.
“Among that which reached the people from the words of the earlier prophethood: If you feel no shame, then do whatever you wish.”
HR Bukhari, Kitab Adab, hadith no. 6120.
"If you don't have anything nice to say, remain silent"
Nowadays people think they have the power to express whatever they want freely and where's the best way to vent out everything? SOCIAL NETWORKING WEBSITES
OK,clearly not the right person to be specifying this matter [hint, just read this blog as a start sometimes yapping non-sensically] but hey...I'm speaking out to myself as a reminder too :D,so bear with me on this ;)
"Some things are better kept within yourselves and you don't have to share it with the whole world to know". People would be either; 1) they sincerely care 2) they just wanna gossip 3) they are just curious
And that is a problem why?
Well, as a start.......when you start yapping about a situation you have been through and you stated it so negatively as if [no, you indeed are] you are blaming someone for the predicament you had to face then people start to ask questions....then you go around the bushes.....flames become a big fire.....comes in all those nasty swearing words....comes in all those immature statements that somehow does not even relate to the first statement given and look where it will end you to? random people who have no other beneficial stuffs to do join along the party and the 'chain' continues.
Where did it get you to?
self-satisfaction?
a solution?
a peace of mind and heart?
or you just created a chain of sins and dragged everyone involved in the conversation with you ?
YES nobody can stop you from expressing your thoughts, but once in awhile, do try to THINK first before you express
Don't make people resent you but could not say anything at you because they know you'd make a big fuss out of it and twist it to something that would make you appear as the 'victim'
People 'tegur' [ok I forgot what is tegur in english] you because they care....out of pure love for a human-being and if you could not take it positively, just don't blurt it out publicly because in the end, it'll just downgrade yourself infront of people....
Instead of asking for people's respect....TRY TO RESPECT YOURSELF first..................it's a start you know and a good one too =)
and let's TRY to have this feeling of SHAME towards Him....feel a little bit ashamed before you write,before you say,before you do and see what bad things you can avoid doing.
People help because they care and they ignored whatever bad things they know or heard about you so please,in return, try not to act so immaturely. Try to be grateful and respectful....towards Allah, towards yourselves and towards the people around you. You don't need to be a saint to do that....you just need to practice the virtues of a human,a person and on top of that, as a MUSLIM.
And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, 'If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe.' "
[Surah Ibrahim: 7]
Again, as a reminder to me first and hopefully you can benefit a thing or two.
Thank you for your time
peace!
toddles~
salam~~
Assalam. wanek,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the reminder wanek, its really useful for me :) May Allah guide us and enlighten our heart with an awareness, always insyAllah :)
regards,
ainn
wa'alaikumussalam ain,
ReplyDeletesharing is caring and a good reminder for me too =)
inshaAllah khair =)
mama Jida likes this. :)
ReplyDeletegane ek, i think i have this prob: i can easily spill out my HISTORY to some people i dont even know much. atau kesimpulannya cepat percaya org kottt...
mummy wanie pun sama dong! :)
ReplyDeleteoh no! that's a big problem....but there's a big difference you spill it to a person face2face then you yap it so publicly [e.g: fb] because it'll arose people with so many questions and well...you know...gossiping starts and all the above matter would occur
as for spilling it to people, now you have your hubby,right? paksa je eizaz dengar...hehe...only tell to the person you trust and try not to spill it to random people because one day, you might overhear your story in a different mode with a pinch of sugar and spices [ceritamu ditokok tambah] told by a total stranger to you [and how did it happen in the first place eh?hehe]
haha. husband lelaki la. lain sikit borak nye... :p
ReplyDeletentahla ye, setakat ni suka bercerita pada org yg tak pnah ketemu lagi. ala2 pen pal gitu. muahahaha.. esp when she say: tell me bout yourself @ tell me an interesting story in your life! :p
tapi rasanya penah jugak terlepas percaya kat kwn2 yg tak berapa rapat tpi kita percayakan dia, tup2, agak byk sugar n spice la. i think i m the one who always need someone to talk to. tapi tak semsetinya perlukan advice. cume suka bercerita..hehe
hehe....yolah tu :p
ReplyDeletekalau ala2 pen pal tu more to sharing stories so xkanlah awk nk share bnda2 yg extremely personal,kan?
Biasalah tu, fitrah kot rasa nk sembang je lagi2 kalau dah lama xjumpa tapi maybe kena ada sense of 'be careful-ness' <--rosak hbs bahasa..haha kalau nk bercerita tu....hehe...we can't trust people too much I guess :p
of coz nothing too personal coz org tu pun bukan paham sgt. :p
ReplyDeleteentahla ek, sume kena moderate la. takleh nak terlampau percaya.. btw, thanks a lot!
meya meya! hehe
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