PICC,Putrajaya,
24&25th December 2011
Iman booster, stress reliever, hopefully, inshaAllah
oh.....coming back to the topic sentence......exercise your fingers and scroll down
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Showing posts with label motivational. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motivational. Show all posts
Friday, December 23, 2011
I like you.....a LOT!
Twins of Faith,
PICC,Putrajaya,
24&25th December 2011
Iman booster, stress reliever, hopefully, inshaAllah
oh.....coming back to the topic sentence......exercise your fingers and scroll down
PICC,Putrajaya,
24&25th December 2011
Iman booster, stress reliever, hopefully, inshaAllah
oh.....coming back to the topic sentence......exercise your fingers and scroll down
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Don't play dirty,please!
I personally think it is best if they put a 18SX warning sign at the beginning of the TV [thy-shall-not-be-written-of] news segment. Today was just way out of line,wayyy wayy out of line. Enough said.
Mr.Z out of nowhere made a claim that Sheikh Sudais is Wahabbi and trying to spread "wrong" ideologies.
Why are the big/well-known people becoming so clever and attention-getter-ish?!!
one positive thing that I got from watching the tv today:
"Kalau lu tgk lu susah, orang lain lagi susah" kata aunty [forgot her name] during "Bersamamu" segment. A very motivational reminder from a person whom we may see as less fortunate but still knows how to be grateful.
Oh oh....
Prince W is getting married on the 29th of April. I loved Lady D when I was little.Miss K got Lady D's ring.The people of Britain want Prince W to be their king.
the older we get, the more we realize how not all people play a clean deal...huhu...na'uzubillah min zalik
toddles~
salam~~
Mr.Z out of nowhere made a claim that Sheikh Sudais is Wahabbi and trying to spread "wrong" ideologies.
Why are the big/well-known people becoming so clever and attention-getter-ish?!!
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| never insult,just be sarcastic..hoho |
one positive thing that I got from watching the tv today:
"Kalau lu tgk lu susah, orang lain lagi susah" kata aunty [forgot her name] during "Bersamamu" segment. A very motivational reminder from a person whom we may see as less fortunate but still knows how to be grateful.
Oh oh....
Prince W is getting married on the 29th of April. I loved Lady D when I was little.Miss K got Lady D's ring.The people of Britain want Prince W to be their king.
the older we get, the more we realize how not all people play a clean deal...huhu...na'uzubillah min zalik
toddles~
salam~~
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Ku kongsikan dengan semua
copy-pasted from: SERENDIPITY
**read until finish...sangat2 menyentuh hati T_T
'IBU BAPA BUKAN LIABILITI'
PETIKAN : 'NOTA HATI SEORANG LELAKI' Oleh Pahrol Mohd Juoi
Ini adalah cerita benar. Cerita benar seorang penulis yang berjaya. Beginilah kisahnya...
Entahlah apa yang selalu bermain pada fikiran ayah. Apabila saya ingin pulang kembali ke kota, dia kerap meminta duit. Seakan-akan mendesak.... "Ada duit? Minta ayah sedikit..."
Saya masih ingat waktu itu kehidupan saya terlalu sukar. Untuk mendapat seratus ringgit di dalam poket pada satu-satu masa pun payah. Kalau balik kampung selalunya duit yang ada hanya cukup-cukup tambang. Mujurlah, isteri dan anak-anak saya sudah faham. Alhamdulilah mereka 'sporting' dan tidak banyak meragam.
"Emak, ayah asyik minta duit. Bukan tak mahu bagi, tapi saya memang tak ada duit," Bisik saya kepada emak. Emak seperti biasa, berwajah selamba, sukar ditembak reaksinya.
"Bagilah beberapa yang ada," cadang emak pendek. "Takkan 5 ringgit?"
Emak mengganguk. Saya rasa bersalah untuk memberi ayah wang sebanyak itu. Apalah yang boleh dibeli dengan wang 5 ringgit. Tapi kerana tidak mahu menghampakan harapan ayah dan ikutkan cadangan emak, saya gagahi juga memberinya.
Ayah selalunya tersenyum menerima pemberian saya. Tetapi yang mengejutkan ialah apabila kami sekeluarga berada dalam perut bas dalam perjalanan pulang ke kota. Di kocek anak saya sudah terselit wang sepuluh ringgit. Siapa yang bagi kalau bukan ayah? 10 tolak 5, saya masih 'untung' 5 ringgit. Geli hati mengenangkannya.
Begitulah selalunya tahun demi tahun. Apabila kami pulang ziarah ke kampung, saya akan memberi pemintaan ayah. Kadangkala terlupa, tetapi ayah akan selalu mengingatkan. Akhirnya, saya memang sediakan peruntukan khas untuk diberikan kepada ayah setiap kali pulang kampung. Kedudukan ekonomi saya yang masih goyah kadangkala hanya mengizinkan wang dua ringgit untuk diberikan kepada ayah. Ironinya, ayah tetap dengan pemintaannya dan tetap tersenyum apabila menerima. Tidak kira berapa jumlahnya. Emak terus-terusan selamba. Saya masih sukar menandingi ketajaman rasa seorang isteri (emak) dalam memahami hati suaminya (ayah).
Begitupun setiap kali dalam perjalanan pulang, kocek anak saya akan jadi sasaran. Kadang-kadang itulah duit pelengkap membeli tiket pulang. Ayah akan siap memasukkan duit yang melebihi jumlah yang saya berikan kepadanya. Saya tidak mengambil masa lama untuk memahami apa maksud tersirat di sebalik perlakuan ayah itu. Dia meminta wang pada saya bukan kerana 'tidak ada', tetapi dia ada sesuatu yang lebih besar ingin dicapainya atau disampaikannya.
Namun, secara bertahap-tahap buku tulisan saya semakin mendapat sambutan. Bukan itu sahaja, perniagaan yang saya mulakan secara kecil-kecilan semakin membesar. Kalau dulu kami pulang ke kampung dengan bas, tetapi selepas beberapa tahun saya pulang dengan kereta milik sendiri. Saya masih ingat komen ayah ketika saya pulang dengan kereta kecil Kancil milik kami sendiri.
"Nanti, besarlah kereta kamu ini...." ujur ayah sambil tersenyum.
Apapun saya tetap memenuhi permintaan ayah setiapkali pulang ke kampung. Wang saya dahulukan kepadanya. Dan ayah juga konsisten dengan sikapnya, ada sahaja wang yang diselitkan ke dalam kocek anak saya.
"Eh tak payahlah ayah..." Sekarang saya mula berani bersuara. Ekonomi keluarga sudah agak stabil. Malu rasanya mengambil duit ayah walaupun perantaraan pemberian datuk kepada cucunya. Saya tahu dan sedar, hakikatnya ayah hendak memberi kepada saya sejak dulu, tetapi sengaja atau tidak ingin, saya merasa segan, duit diberi melalui anak.
"Kenapa, dah kaya?" usik ayah. Namun, duit dikocek anak tetap diselitkannya. Cuma sekarang bezanya, duit itu tidak lagi 'dikebas' oleh saya. Dan dalam hati, saya mula berasa senang kerana jumlah yang saya berikan kepada ayah, kini sudah melebihi apa yang mampu diselitkan ke kocek anak saya. Tidak macam dulu lagi, duit pemberian ayah kepada anak saya sentiasa melebihi duit pemberian saya kepadanya.
Masin sungguh mulut ayah. Tidak sampai tiga tahun, kami bertukar kereta. Di samping menulis, saya menjadi penerbit. Perniagaan semakin rancak. Oleh sebab bilangan anak bertambah dan keperluan kerja yang meningkat, saya sudah membeli MPV utuk kegunaan harian. Anak-anak mula menjejakkan kaki ke menara gading. Kehidupan semakin laju dan aktiviti semakin rancak. Namun sibuk sekalipun saya tetap pulang menziarahi ayah dan ibu. Anehnya ayah tetap memberi kepada anak saya walaupun kini saya telah dikenali sebagai seorang tokoh korporat yang berjaya. Rupa-rupanya, ayah memberi bukan kerana kekurangan atau kelebihan kami,
Tetapi dia MEMBERI KERANA ALLAH. Mencontohi Allah al-Wahhab itu.
Anda ingin tahu apa pesan penulis itu kepada saya? Ya, mari kongsi bersama :
"Kini aku benar-benar faham bahawa ibu ayah yang tua bukan beban dalam kehidupan di dunia, lebih-lebih lagi dalam kehidupan di akhirat. Mereka bukan 'liabiliti' tetapi sebenarnya aset untuk kita (walaupun istilah itu sebenarnya kurang atau tidak tepat kerana ibubapa bukan benda). Rugi betul siapa yang mempunyai ibu bapa yang telah tua tetapi mengabaikannya.
"Memberi kepada ibu bapa hakikatnya memberi kepada diri sendiri. Walaupun itu bukan niat kita ketika memberi, tetapi percayalah rezeki berganda akan pulang kepada kita semula. DOA MEREKA MUSTAJAB. Harapan mereka kenyataan. Kasih mereka bekalan. Benarlah seperti mana sabda Rasulullah s.a.w, keredhaan Allah terletak kepada keredhaan ibu bapa."
Baiklah, inilah sebenarnya rahsia 'perniagaan' yang jarang-jarang diperkatakan oleh tokoh korporat. Juga tidak pernah ditulis dalam mana-mana buku perniagaan. Masih punya ibubapa? MEMBERILAH KEPADA MEREKA. Tidak ada? Tidak mengapa, memberilah kepada anak-anak anda. Tidak ada juga? Memberilah kepada sesiapa sahaja. Kita sentiasa berfikir untuk memberi. Memberi kepada orang lain bererti memberi kepada diri kita sendiri walaupun itu bukan maksud kita ketika mula memberi.
SAHABAT SEKALIAN,
Cerita dibawah menjadi IBRAH bagi kita semua.
Apa yang paling utama dalam memberikan khidmat terakhir kepada ibu ayah ialah MEMANDIKAN JENAZAHNYA, MENGKAPANKAN TUBUH MULIANYA,MENYEMBAHYANGKAN JENAZAH NYA DAN MENGKEBUMIKAN JENAZAHNYA. Lakukan dengan tangan-tangan kita sebagai anak-anak. Lakukanlah sahabat,lakukannya jika ditakdirkan ibu ayah kita meninggal dunia.
Saya menangis apabila ada sahabat saya menceritakan bagaimana ibu kepada Tuan Guru Dr Harun Din meninggal dunia. Bacalah wahai sahabat, pengalaman Dr Harun Din dan keluarganya.
Jiran kpd ibu Dr Harun Din (DrHD) menziarah ibunya pada waktu petang selepas asar. Beliau memberi salam tetapi tak bersahut salamnya.Beberapa kali salam diberikan tetapi tak ada jawapan. Maka jirannya itu mencari ruang mencari ibu DrHD, akhirnya terlihat ibunya sedang sujud dalam solat. Lalu jiran ini balik ke rumah dahulu. Beberapa minit kemudian, datang semula berjumpa ibu DRHD, dilihatnya masih sujud. Firasat jirannya, ini ada yang tak kena. Lalu masuk ke rumah untuk melihat dari dekat ibu DrHD. Rupa-rupanya, ibu DrHD telah kembali ke rahmatullah dalam masa ibunya sujud menghadap Allah. Ya Allah mulianya kematian ibu DrHD.
Perkara yang paling comel yang dilakukan keluarga DrHD ialah,menyempurnakan dengan tangan-tangan anak-anak jenazah ibunya. Mandikan ibu, kapankan ibu, sembahyangkan ibu dan kebumikan tanpa diusik orang lain ke atas tubuh ibunya. Ada jiran-jiran yang ingin melakukannya tetapi ditolak oleh Dr Harun Din, Hasan Din dan Ishak Din dengan hujah,"BERILAH SAYA SEKELUARGA PELUANG MEMBUAT KHIDMAT YANG TERAKHIR UNTUK IBU". Ketika hujah itu diberikan, seluruh masyarakat yang hadir melinangkan air mata kerana tawaaduk dan alimnya anak-anak ibu itu. Paling menyayatkan hati masyarakat adalah apabila ketiga-tiga adik beradik ini iaitu Harun Din,Hasan Din dan Ishak Din turun sendiri ke lubang lahad mengebumikan jenazah ibunya. Ada beberapa orang yang hadir, memohon dan berkata;
"Wahai Tuan Guru, biarlah kami buat semuanya ini menurunkan jenazah ibu Tuan Guru." Permintaan ini ditolak oleh DrHD dgn hujah yang sama "Berilah kami adik beradik peluang mengebumikan jenazah ibu ini kali terakhir". Seluruh yang hadir di kuburan ketika itu, mencurahkan airmata tawadduk di atas akhlak anak-anak ibu yang diasuh
hingga se"alim" sedemikian. Peristiwa ini disempurnakan hingga selesai.
HEBAT IBU ini membina akhlak dan keilmuan anak-anak mereka, maka tidak hairanlah kita semua bahawa DrHD , Hasan Din dan Ishak Din memang disegani oelh kawan dan lawan di Bumi Malaysia ini kerana "AKHLAK"nya yang mulia dan "ALIM" nya mereka.
Terus terang sahabat, ketika saya mendengar cerita ini, air mata saya berlinangan apabila tergambar ketika saya dan 11 orang adik beradik menguruskan jenazah ibu bersama Februari 2009 yang lalu.
Ya Allah, rahmatilah ibu kami semua. Rahmatilah mereka dan Ampunkanlah kami.
Wallahu A'lam.
Baca, hayati, selami dan insafi. Amalkan. Sesungguhnya doa ibu bapa amat mustajab. Bahagia dunia akhirat.
I LOVE YOU BOTH, AYAH and MAMA <3
Ya Allah, jadikanlah aku anak yang diredhai ibubapaku kerana RedhaMu terletak dalam redha mereka,ameen
toddles~
salam~~
**read until finish...sangat2 menyentuh hati T_T
'IBU BAPA BUKAN LIABILITI'
PETIKAN : 'NOTA HATI SEORANG LELAKI' Oleh Pahrol Mohd Juoi
Ini adalah cerita benar. Cerita benar seorang penulis yang berjaya. Beginilah kisahnya...
Entahlah apa yang selalu bermain pada fikiran ayah. Apabila saya ingin pulang kembali ke kota, dia kerap meminta duit. Seakan-akan mendesak.... "Ada duit? Minta ayah sedikit..."
Saya masih ingat waktu itu kehidupan saya terlalu sukar. Untuk mendapat seratus ringgit di dalam poket pada satu-satu masa pun payah. Kalau balik kampung selalunya duit yang ada hanya cukup-cukup tambang. Mujurlah, isteri dan anak-anak saya sudah faham. Alhamdulilah mereka 'sporting' dan tidak banyak meragam.
"Emak, ayah asyik minta duit. Bukan tak mahu bagi, tapi saya memang tak ada duit," Bisik saya kepada emak. Emak seperti biasa, berwajah selamba, sukar ditembak reaksinya.
"Bagilah beberapa yang ada," cadang emak pendek. "Takkan 5 ringgit?"
Emak mengganguk. Saya rasa bersalah untuk memberi ayah wang sebanyak itu. Apalah yang boleh dibeli dengan wang 5 ringgit. Tapi kerana tidak mahu menghampakan harapan ayah dan ikutkan cadangan emak, saya gagahi juga memberinya.
Ayah selalunya tersenyum menerima pemberian saya. Tetapi yang mengejutkan ialah apabila kami sekeluarga berada dalam perut bas dalam perjalanan pulang ke kota. Di kocek anak saya sudah terselit wang sepuluh ringgit. Siapa yang bagi kalau bukan ayah? 10 tolak 5, saya masih 'untung' 5 ringgit. Geli hati mengenangkannya.
Begitulah selalunya tahun demi tahun. Apabila kami pulang ziarah ke kampung, saya akan memberi pemintaan ayah. Kadangkala terlupa, tetapi ayah akan selalu mengingatkan. Akhirnya, saya memang sediakan peruntukan khas untuk diberikan kepada ayah setiap kali pulang kampung. Kedudukan ekonomi saya yang masih goyah kadangkala hanya mengizinkan wang dua ringgit untuk diberikan kepada ayah. Ironinya, ayah tetap dengan pemintaannya dan tetap tersenyum apabila menerima. Tidak kira berapa jumlahnya. Emak terus-terusan selamba. Saya masih sukar menandingi ketajaman rasa seorang isteri (emak) dalam memahami hati suaminya (ayah).
Begitupun setiap kali dalam perjalanan pulang, kocek anak saya akan jadi sasaran. Kadang-kadang itulah duit pelengkap membeli tiket pulang. Ayah akan siap memasukkan duit yang melebihi jumlah yang saya berikan kepadanya. Saya tidak mengambil masa lama untuk memahami apa maksud tersirat di sebalik perlakuan ayah itu. Dia meminta wang pada saya bukan kerana 'tidak ada', tetapi dia ada sesuatu yang lebih besar ingin dicapainya atau disampaikannya.
Namun, secara bertahap-tahap buku tulisan saya semakin mendapat sambutan. Bukan itu sahaja, perniagaan yang saya mulakan secara kecil-kecilan semakin membesar. Kalau dulu kami pulang ke kampung dengan bas, tetapi selepas beberapa tahun saya pulang dengan kereta milik sendiri. Saya masih ingat komen ayah ketika saya pulang dengan kereta kecil Kancil milik kami sendiri.
"Nanti, besarlah kereta kamu ini...." ujur ayah sambil tersenyum.
Apapun saya tetap memenuhi permintaan ayah setiapkali pulang ke kampung. Wang saya dahulukan kepadanya. Dan ayah juga konsisten dengan sikapnya, ada sahaja wang yang diselitkan ke dalam kocek anak saya.
"Eh tak payahlah ayah..." Sekarang saya mula berani bersuara. Ekonomi keluarga sudah agak stabil. Malu rasanya mengambil duit ayah walaupun perantaraan pemberian datuk kepada cucunya. Saya tahu dan sedar, hakikatnya ayah hendak memberi kepada saya sejak dulu, tetapi sengaja atau tidak ingin, saya merasa segan, duit diberi melalui anak.
"Kenapa, dah kaya?" usik ayah. Namun, duit dikocek anak tetap diselitkannya. Cuma sekarang bezanya, duit itu tidak lagi 'dikebas' oleh saya. Dan dalam hati, saya mula berasa senang kerana jumlah yang saya berikan kepada ayah, kini sudah melebihi apa yang mampu diselitkan ke kocek anak saya. Tidak macam dulu lagi, duit pemberian ayah kepada anak saya sentiasa melebihi duit pemberian saya kepadanya.
Masin sungguh mulut ayah. Tidak sampai tiga tahun, kami bertukar kereta. Di samping menulis, saya menjadi penerbit. Perniagaan semakin rancak. Oleh sebab bilangan anak bertambah dan keperluan kerja yang meningkat, saya sudah membeli MPV utuk kegunaan harian. Anak-anak mula menjejakkan kaki ke menara gading. Kehidupan semakin laju dan aktiviti semakin rancak. Namun sibuk sekalipun saya tetap pulang menziarahi ayah dan ibu. Anehnya ayah tetap memberi kepada anak saya walaupun kini saya telah dikenali sebagai seorang tokoh korporat yang berjaya. Rupa-rupanya, ayah memberi bukan kerana kekurangan atau kelebihan kami,
Tetapi dia MEMBERI KERANA ALLAH. Mencontohi Allah al-Wahhab itu.
Anda ingin tahu apa pesan penulis itu kepada saya? Ya, mari kongsi bersama :
"Kini aku benar-benar faham bahawa ibu ayah yang tua bukan beban dalam kehidupan di dunia, lebih-lebih lagi dalam kehidupan di akhirat. Mereka bukan 'liabiliti' tetapi sebenarnya aset untuk kita (walaupun istilah itu sebenarnya kurang atau tidak tepat kerana ibubapa bukan benda). Rugi betul siapa yang mempunyai ibu bapa yang telah tua tetapi mengabaikannya.
"Memberi kepada ibu bapa hakikatnya memberi kepada diri sendiri. Walaupun itu bukan niat kita ketika memberi, tetapi percayalah rezeki berganda akan pulang kepada kita semula. DOA MEREKA MUSTAJAB. Harapan mereka kenyataan. Kasih mereka bekalan. Benarlah seperti mana sabda Rasulullah s.a.w, keredhaan Allah terletak kepada keredhaan ibu bapa."
Baiklah, inilah sebenarnya rahsia 'perniagaan' yang jarang-jarang diperkatakan oleh tokoh korporat. Juga tidak pernah ditulis dalam mana-mana buku perniagaan. Masih punya ibubapa? MEMBERILAH KEPADA MEREKA. Tidak ada? Tidak mengapa, memberilah kepada anak-anak anda. Tidak ada juga? Memberilah kepada sesiapa sahaja. Kita sentiasa berfikir untuk memberi. Memberi kepada orang lain bererti memberi kepada diri kita sendiri walaupun itu bukan maksud kita ketika mula memberi.
SAHABAT SEKALIAN,
Cerita dibawah menjadi IBRAH bagi kita semua.
Apa yang paling utama dalam memberikan khidmat terakhir kepada ibu ayah ialah MEMANDIKAN JENAZAHNYA, MENGKAPANKAN TUBUH MULIANYA,MENYEMBAHYANGKAN JENAZAH NYA DAN MENGKEBUMIKAN JENAZAHNYA. Lakukan dengan tangan-tangan kita sebagai anak-anak. Lakukanlah sahabat,lakukannya jika ditakdirkan ibu ayah kita meninggal dunia.
Saya menangis apabila ada sahabat saya menceritakan bagaimana ibu kepada Tuan Guru Dr Harun Din meninggal dunia. Bacalah wahai sahabat, pengalaman Dr Harun Din dan keluarganya.
Jiran kpd ibu Dr Harun Din (DrHD) menziarah ibunya pada waktu petang selepas asar. Beliau memberi salam tetapi tak bersahut salamnya.Beberapa kali salam diberikan tetapi tak ada jawapan. Maka jirannya itu mencari ruang mencari ibu DrHD, akhirnya terlihat ibunya sedang sujud dalam solat. Lalu jiran ini balik ke rumah dahulu. Beberapa minit kemudian, datang semula berjumpa ibu DRHD, dilihatnya masih sujud. Firasat jirannya, ini ada yang tak kena. Lalu masuk ke rumah untuk melihat dari dekat ibu DrHD. Rupa-rupanya, ibu DrHD telah kembali ke rahmatullah dalam masa ibunya sujud menghadap Allah. Ya Allah mulianya kematian ibu DrHD.
Perkara yang paling comel yang dilakukan keluarga DrHD ialah,menyempurnakan dengan tangan-tangan anak-anak jenazah ibunya. Mandikan ibu, kapankan ibu, sembahyangkan ibu dan kebumikan tanpa diusik orang lain ke atas tubuh ibunya. Ada jiran-jiran yang ingin melakukannya tetapi ditolak oleh Dr Harun Din, Hasan Din dan Ishak Din dengan hujah,"BERILAH SAYA SEKELUARGA PELUANG MEMBUAT KHIDMAT YANG TERAKHIR UNTUK IBU". Ketika hujah itu diberikan, seluruh masyarakat yang hadir melinangkan air mata kerana tawaaduk dan alimnya anak-anak ibu itu. Paling menyayatkan hati masyarakat adalah apabila ketiga-tiga adik beradik ini iaitu Harun Din,Hasan Din dan Ishak Din turun sendiri ke lubang lahad mengebumikan jenazah ibunya. Ada beberapa orang yang hadir, memohon dan berkata;
"Wahai Tuan Guru, biarlah kami buat semuanya ini menurunkan jenazah ibu Tuan Guru." Permintaan ini ditolak oleh DrHD dgn hujah yang sama "Berilah kami adik beradik peluang mengebumikan jenazah ibu ini kali terakhir". Seluruh yang hadir di kuburan ketika itu, mencurahkan airmata tawadduk di atas akhlak anak-anak ibu yang diasuh
hingga se"alim" sedemikian. Peristiwa ini disempurnakan hingga selesai.
HEBAT IBU ini membina akhlak dan keilmuan anak-anak mereka, maka tidak hairanlah kita semua bahawa DrHD , Hasan Din dan Ishak Din memang disegani oelh kawan dan lawan di Bumi Malaysia ini kerana "AKHLAK"nya yang mulia dan "ALIM" nya mereka.
Terus terang sahabat, ketika saya mendengar cerita ini, air mata saya berlinangan apabila tergambar ketika saya dan 11 orang adik beradik menguruskan jenazah ibu bersama Februari 2009 yang lalu.
Ya Allah, rahmatilah ibu kami semua. Rahmatilah mereka dan Ampunkanlah kami.
Wallahu A'lam.
Baca, hayati, selami dan insafi. Amalkan. Sesungguhnya doa ibu bapa amat mustajab. Bahagia dunia akhirat.
I LOVE YOU BOTH, AYAH and MAMA <3
Ya Allah, jadikanlah aku anak yang diredhai ibubapaku kerana RedhaMu terletak dalam redha mereka,ameen
toddles~
salam~~
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Nice Article
"Why Do People Have to Leave Each Other" by Yasmin Mogahed
When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me: “Why do people have to leave each other?” The question was a personal one, but it seemed clear to me why the question was chosen for me.
I was one to get attached.Ever since I was a child, this temperament was clear. While other children in preschool could easily recover once their parents left, I could not. My tears, once set in motion, did not stop easily. As I grew up, I learned to become attached to everything around me. From the time I was in first grade, I needed a best friend. As I got older, any fall-out with a friend shattered me. I couldn’t let go of anything. People, places, events, photographs, moments—even outcomes became objects of strong attachment. If things didn’t work out the way I wanted or imagined they should, I was devastated. And disappointment for me wasn’t an ordinary emotion. It was catastrophic.
Once let down, I never fully recovered. I could never forget, and the break never mended. Like a glass vase that you place on the edge of a table, once broken, the pieces never quite fit again.
But the problem wasn’t with the vase. Or even that the vases kept breaking. The problem was that I kept putting them on the edge of tables. Through my attachments, I was dependent on my relationships to fulfill my needs. I allowed those relationships to define my happiness or my sadness, my fulfillment or my emptiness, my security, and even my self-worth. And so, like the vase placed where it will inevitably fall, through those dependencies I set myself up for disappointment. I set myself up to be broken. And that’s exactly what I found: one disappointment, one break after another.
But the people who broke me were not to blame any more than gravity can be blamed for breaking the vase. We can’t blame the laws of physics when a twig snaps because we leaned on it for support. The twig was never created to carry us.
Our weight was only meant to be carried by God. We are told in the Quran: “…whoever rejects evil and believes in God hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And God hears and knows all things.” (Qur’an 2: 256)
There is a crucial lesson in this verse: that there is only one handhold that never breaks. There is only one place where we can lay our dependencies. There is only one relationship that should define our self-worth and only one source from which to seek our ultimate happiness, fulfillment, and security. That place is God.
But this world is all about seeking those things everywhere else. Some of us seek it in our careers, some seek it in wealth, some in status. Some, like me, seek it in our relationships. In her book, Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert describes her own quest for happiness. She describes moving in and out of relationships, and even traveling the globe in search of this fulfillment. She seeks that fulfillment—unsuccessfully—in her relationships, in meditation, even in food.
And that’s exactly where I spent much of my own life: seeking a way to fill my inner void. So it was no wonder that the little girl in my dream asked me this question. It was a question about loss, about disappointment. It was a question about being let down. A question about seeking something and coming back empty handed. It was about what happens when you try to dig in concrete with your bare hands: not only do you come back with nothing—you break your fingers in the process. And I learned this not by reading it, not by hearing it from a wise sage. I learned it by trying it again, and again, and again.
And so, the little girl’s question was essentially my own question…being asked to myself.
Ultimately, the question was about the nature of the dunya as a place of fleeting moments and temporary attachments. As a place where people are with you today, and leave or die tomorrow. But this reality hurts our very being because it goes against our nature. We, as humans, are made to seek, love, and strive for what is perfect and what is permanent. We are made to seek what’s eternal. We seek this because we were not made for this life. Our first and true home was Paradise: a land that is both perfect and eternal. So the yearning for that type of life is a part of our being. The problem is that we try to find that here. And so we create ageless creams and cosmetic surgery in a desperate attempt to hold on—in an attempt to mold this world into what it is not, and will never be.
And that’s why if we live in dunya with our hearts, it breaks us. That’s why this dunya hurts. It is because the definition of dunya, as something temporary and imperfect, goes against everything we are made to yearn for. Allah put a yearning in us that can only be fulfilled by what is eternal and perfect. By trying to find fulfillment in what is fleeting, we are running after a hologram…a mirage. We are digging into concrete with our bare hands. Seeking to turn what is by its very nature temporary into something eternal is like trying to extract from fire, water. You just get burned. Only when we stop putting our hopes in dunya, only when we stop trying to make the dunya into what it is not—and was never meant to be (jannah)—will this life finally stop breaking our hearts.
We must also realize that nothing happens without a purpose. Nothing. Not even broken hearts. Not even pain. That broken heart and that pain are lessons and signs for us. They are warnings that something is wrong. They are warnings that we need to make a change. Just like the pain of being burned is what warns us to remove our hand from the fire, emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change. That we need to detach. Pain is a form of forced detachment. Like the loved one who hurts you again and again and again, the more dunya hurts us, the more we inevitably detach from it. The more we inevitably stop loving it.
And pain is a pointer to our attachments. That which makes us cry, that which causes us most pain is where our false attachments lie. And it is those things which we are attached to as we should only be attached to
Allah which become barriers on our path to God. But the pain itself is what makes the false attachment evident. The pain creates a condition in our life that we seek to change, and if there is anything about our condition that we don’t like, there is a divine formula to change it. God says: “Verily never will God change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves.” (Qur’an, 13:11)
After years of falling into the same pattern of disappointments and heartbreak, I finally began to realize something profound. I had always thought that love of dunya meant being attached to material things. And I was not attached to material things. I was attached to people. I was attached to moments. I was attached to emotions. So I thought that the love of dunya just did not apply to me. What I didn’t realize was that people, moments, emotions are all a part of dunya. What I didn’t realize is that all the pain I had experienced in life was due to one thing, and one thing only: love of dunya.
As soon as I began to have that realization, a veil was lifted from my eyes. I started to see what my problem was. I was expecting this life to be what it is not, and was never meant to be: perfect. And being the idealist that I am, I was struggling with every cell in my body to make it so. It had to be perfect. And I would not stop until it was. I gave my blood, sweat, and tears to this endeavor: making the dunya into jannah. This meant expecting people around me to be perfect. Expecting my relationships to be perfect. Expecting so much from those around me and from this life. Expectations. Expectations. Expectations. And if there is one recipe for unhappiness it is that: expectations. But herein lay my fatal mistake. My mistake was not in having expectations; as humans, we should never lose hope.
The problem was in *where* I was placing those expectations and that hope. At the end of the day, my hope and expectations were not being placed in God. My hope and expectations were in people, relationships, means. Ultimately, my hope was in this dunya rather than Allah.
And so I came to realize a very deep Truth. An ayah began to cross my mind. It was an ayah I had heard before, but for the first time I realized that it was actually describing me: “Those who rest not their hope on their meeting with Us, but are pleased and satisfied with the life of the present, and those who heed not Our Signs.” (Qur’an, 10:7)
By thinking that I can have everything here, my hope was not in my meeting with God. My hope was in dunya. But what does it mean to place your hope in dunya? How can this be avoided? It means when you have friends, don’t expect your friends to fill your emptiness. When you get married, don’t expect your spouse to fulfill your every need. When you’re an activist, don’t put your hope in the results. When you’re in trouble don’t depend on yourself. Don’t depend on people. Depend on God.
Seek the help of people—but realize that it is not the people (or even your own self) that can save you. Only Allah can do these things. The people are only tools, a means used by God. But they are not the source of help, aid, or salvation of any kind. Only God is. The people cannot even create the wing of a fly (22:73). And so, even while you interact with people externally, turn your heart towards God. Face Him alone, as Prophet Ibrahim (as) said so beautifully: “For me, I have set my face, firmly and truly, towards Him Who created the heavens and the earth, and never shall I give partners to Allah.” (Qur’an, 6:79)
But how does Prophet Ibrahim (as) describe his journey to that point? He studies the moon, the sun and the stars and realizes that they are not perfect. They set.
They let us down.
So Prophet Ibrahim (as) was thereby led to face Allah alone. Like him, we need to put our full hope, trust, and dependency on God. And God alone. And if we do that, we will learn what it means to finally find peace and stability of heart. Only then will the roller coaster that once defined our lives finally come to an end. That is because if our inner state is dependent on something that is by definition inconstant, that inner state will also be inconstant. If our inner state is dependent on something changing and temporary, that inner state will be in a constant state of instability, agitation, and unrest. This means that one moment we’re happy, but as soon as that which our happiness depended upon changes, our happiness also changes. And we become sad. We remain always swinging from one extreme to another and not realizing why.
We experience this emotional roller coaster because we can never find stability and lasting peace until our attachment and dependency is on what is stable and lasting. How can we hope to find constancy if what we hold on to is inconstant and perishing? In the statement of Abu Bakr is a deep illustration of this truth. After the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ died, the people went into shock and could not handle the news. But although no one loved the Prophet ﷺ like Abu Bakr, Abu Bakr understood well the only place where one’s dependency should lie. He said: “If you worshipped Muhammad, know that Muhammad is dead. But if you worshipped Allah, know that Allah never dies.”
To attain that state, don’t let your source of fulfillment be anything other than your relationship with God.
Don’t let your definition of success, failure, or self-worth be anything other than your position with Him (Qur’an, 49:13). And if you do this, you become unbreakable, because your handhold is unbreakable. You become unconquerable, because your supporter can never be conquered. And you will never become empty, because your source of fulfillment is unending and never diminishes.
Looking back at the dream I had when I was 17, I wonder if that little girl was me. I wonder this because the answer I gave her was a lesson I would need to spend the next painful years of my life learning. My answer to her question of why people have to leave each other was: “because this life isn’t perfect; for if it was, what would the next be called?”
source: HERE
toddles~
salam~~
When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me: “Why do people have to leave each other?” The question was a personal one, but it seemed clear to me why the question was chosen for me.
I was one to get attached.Ever since I was a child, this temperament was clear. While other children in preschool could easily recover once their parents left, I could not. My tears, once set in motion, did not stop easily. As I grew up, I learned to become attached to everything around me. From the time I was in first grade, I needed a best friend. As I got older, any fall-out with a friend shattered me. I couldn’t let go of anything. People, places, events, photographs, moments—even outcomes became objects of strong attachment. If things didn’t work out the way I wanted or imagined they should, I was devastated. And disappointment for me wasn’t an ordinary emotion. It was catastrophic.
Once let down, I never fully recovered. I could never forget, and the break never mended. Like a glass vase that you place on the edge of a table, once broken, the pieces never quite fit again.
But the problem wasn’t with the vase. Or even that the vases kept breaking. The problem was that I kept putting them on the edge of tables. Through my attachments, I was dependent on my relationships to fulfill my needs. I allowed those relationships to define my happiness or my sadness, my fulfillment or my emptiness, my security, and even my self-worth. And so, like the vase placed where it will inevitably fall, through those dependencies I set myself up for disappointment. I set myself up to be broken. And that’s exactly what I found: one disappointment, one break after another.
But the people who broke me were not to blame any more than gravity can be blamed for breaking the vase. We can’t blame the laws of physics when a twig snaps because we leaned on it for support. The twig was never created to carry us.
Our weight was only meant to be carried by God. We are told in the Quran: “…whoever rejects evil and believes in God hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And God hears and knows all things.” (Qur’an 2: 256)
There is a crucial lesson in this verse: that there is only one handhold that never breaks. There is only one place where we can lay our dependencies. There is only one relationship that should define our self-worth and only one source from which to seek our ultimate happiness, fulfillment, and security. That place is God.
But this world is all about seeking those things everywhere else. Some of us seek it in our careers, some seek it in wealth, some in status. Some, like me, seek it in our relationships. In her book, Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert describes her own quest for happiness. She describes moving in and out of relationships, and even traveling the globe in search of this fulfillment. She seeks that fulfillment—unsuccessfully—in her relationships, in meditation, even in food.
And that’s exactly where I spent much of my own life: seeking a way to fill my inner void. So it was no wonder that the little girl in my dream asked me this question. It was a question about loss, about disappointment. It was a question about being let down. A question about seeking something and coming back empty handed. It was about what happens when you try to dig in concrete with your bare hands: not only do you come back with nothing—you break your fingers in the process. And I learned this not by reading it, not by hearing it from a wise sage. I learned it by trying it again, and again, and again.
And so, the little girl’s question was essentially my own question…being asked to myself.
Ultimately, the question was about the nature of the dunya as a place of fleeting moments and temporary attachments. As a place where people are with you today, and leave or die tomorrow. But this reality hurts our very being because it goes against our nature. We, as humans, are made to seek, love, and strive for what is perfect and what is permanent. We are made to seek what’s eternal. We seek this because we were not made for this life. Our first and true home was Paradise: a land that is both perfect and eternal. So the yearning for that type of life is a part of our being. The problem is that we try to find that here. And so we create ageless creams and cosmetic surgery in a desperate attempt to hold on—in an attempt to mold this world into what it is not, and will never be.
And that’s why if we live in dunya with our hearts, it breaks us. That’s why this dunya hurts. It is because the definition of dunya, as something temporary and imperfect, goes against everything we are made to yearn for. Allah put a yearning in us that can only be fulfilled by what is eternal and perfect. By trying to find fulfillment in what is fleeting, we are running after a hologram…a mirage. We are digging into concrete with our bare hands. Seeking to turn what is by its very nature temporary into something eternal is like trying to extract from fire, water. You just get burned. Only when we stop putting our hopes in dunya, only when we stop trying to make the dunya into what it is not—and was never meant to be (jannah)—will this life finally stop breaking our hearts.
We must also realize that nothing happens without a purpose. Nothing. Not even broken hearts. Not even pain. That broken heart and that pain are lessons and signs for us. They are warnings that something is wrong. They are warnings that we need to make a change. Just like the pain of being burned is what warns us to remove our hand from the fire, emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change. That we need to detach. Pain is a form of forced detachment. Like the loved one who hurts you again and again and again, the more dunya hurts us, the more we inevitably detach from it. The more we inevitably stop loving it.
And pain is a pointer to our attachments. That which makes us cry, that which causes us most pain is where our false attachments lie. And it is those things which we are attached to as we should only be attached to
Allah which become barriers on our path to God. But the pain itself is what makes the false attachment evident. The pain creates a condition in our life that we seek to change, and if there is anything about our condition that we don’t like, there is a divine formula to change it. God says: “Verily never will God change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves.” (Qur’an, 13:11)
After years of falling into the same pattern of disappointments and heartbreak, I finally began to realize something profound. I had always thought that love of dunya meant being attached to material things. And I was not attached to material things. I was attached to people. I was attached to moments. I was attached to emotions. So I thought that the love of dunya just did not apply to me. What I didn’t realize was that people, moments, emotions are all a part of dunya. What I didn’t realize is that all the pain I had experienced in life was due to one thing, and one thing only: love of dunya.
As soon as I began to have that realization, a veil was lifted from my eyes. I started to see what my problem was. I was expecting this life to be what it is not, and was never meant to be: perfect. And being the idealist that I am, I was struggling with every cell in my body to make it so. It had to be perfect. And I would not stop until it was. I gave my blood, sweat, and tears to this endeavor: making the dunya into jannah. This meant expecting people around me to be perfect. Expecting my relationships to be perfect. Expecting so much from those around me and from this life. Expectations. Expectations. Expectations. And if there is one recipe for unhappiness it is that: expectations. But herein lay my fatal mistake. My mistake was not in having expectations; as humans, we should never lose hope.
The problem was in *where* I was placing those expectations and that hope. At the end of the day, my hope and expectations were not being placed in God. My hope and expectations were in people, relationships, means. Ultimately, my hope was in this dunya rather than Allah.
And so I came to realize a very deep Truth. An ayah began to cross my mind. It was an ayah I had heard before, but for the first time I realized that it was actually describing me: “Those who rest not their hope on their meeting with Us, but are pleased and satisfied with the life of the present, and those who heed not Our Signs.” (Qur’an, 10:7)
By thinking that I can have everything here, my hope was not in my meeting with God. My hope was in dunya. But what does it mean to place your hope in dunya? How can this be avoided? It means when you have friends, don’t expect your friends to fill your emptiness. When you get married, don’t expect your spouse to fulfill your every need. When you’re an activist, don’t put your hope in the results. When you’re in trouble don’t depend on yourself. Don’t depend on people. Depend on God.
Seek the help of people—but realize that it is not the people (or even your own self) that can save you. Only Allah can do these things. The people are only tools, a means used by God. But they are not the source of help, aid, or salvation of any kind. Only God is. The people cannot even create the wing of a fly (22:73). And so, even while you interact with people externally, turn your heart towards God. Face Him alone, as Prophet Ibrahim (as) said so beautifully: “For me, I have set my face, firmly and truly, towards Him Who created the heavens and the earth, and never shall I give partners to Allah.” (Qur’an, 6:79)
But how does Prophet Ibrahim (as) describe his journey to that point? He studies the moon, the sun and the stars and realizes that they are not perfect. They set.
They let us down.
So Prophet Ibrahim (as) was thereby led to face Allah alone. Like him, we need to put our full hope, trust, and dependency on God. And God alone. And if we do that, we will learn what it means to finally find peace and stability of heart. Only then will the roller coaster that once defined our lives finally come to an end. That is because if our inner state is dependent on something that is by definition inconstant, that inner state will also be inconstant. If our inner state is dependent on something changing and temporary, that inner state will be in a constant state of instability, agitation, and unrest. This means that one moment we’re happy, but as soon as that which our happiness depended upon changes, our happiness also changes. And we become sad. We remain always swinging from one extreme to another and not realizing why.
We experience this emotional roller coaster because we can never find stability and lasting peace until our attachment and dependency is on what is stable and lasting. How can we hope to find constancy if what we hold on to is inconstant and perishing? In the statement of Abu Bakr is a deep illustration of this truth. After the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ died, the people went into shock and could not handle the news. But although no one loved the Prophet ﷺ like Abu Bakr, Abu Bakr understood well the only place where one’s dependency should lie. He said: “If you worshipped Muhammad, know that Muhammad is dead. But if you worshipped Allah, know that Allah never dies.”
To attain that state, don’t let your source of fulfillment be anything other than your relationship with God.
Don’t let your definition of success, failure, or self-worth be anything other than your position with Him (Qur’an, 49:13). And if you do this, you become unbreakable, because your handhold is unbreakable. You become unconquerable, because your supporter can never be conquered. And you will never become empty, because your source of fulfillment is unending and never diminishes.
Looking back at the dream I had when I was 17, I wonder if that little girl was me. I wonder this because the answer I gave her was a lesson I would need to spend the next painful years of my life learning. My answer to her question of why people have to leave each other was: “because this life isn’t perfect; for if it was, what would the next be called?”
source: HERE
toddles~
salam~~
Friday, March 11, 2011
motivation
I find that, in order to keep one's self motivated in doing anything [say:studying,working,etc], we should have something to look forward to. I have been so demotivated lately and I stick with the -I am my OWN motivator- motto. So, that's just what I did.
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| you can watch it on youtube if you are interested. Got English subtitles too =) |
For example:
lack of motivation to do work, to study or be in a particular position [senang cerita,nak quit lah]
what we should do??: aim something as a distraction/motivation. Like aiming to meet up with bestfriends, watch a movie after work [ I watched 3 Idiots, works everytime....hehehe], go buy delicacies, read a book, call mum, read motivational stuffs, read the Quran, seek for people's motivational words [who knows you might be inspired with the given words ] or planning a vacation trip with besties....hoho
I can't guarantee it is a success for EVERYone but it won't hurt if you try, right? =)
inshaAllah~~
inshaAllah~~
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| motivational enough found in tumblr =) |
I will have a whole week worth of motivation because my family's coming to spend the school holidays with me....though I will be working but at least I won't have to cook for myself,bahahaha oh I so miss mama's cooking ^____^
toddles~
salam~~
Monday, March 7, 2011
Frust dalam LO.V.E?
Siapa yang pernah merasakan tahulah betapa peritnya. Benarlah kata pujangga,“sakit yang paling dahsyat ialah mencintai seseorang, tetapi tidak berbalas.” Aneh sekali derita sakit putus cinta ini… benci, tapi rindu. Dendam tapi sayang. Dunia terasa sempit, dada terasa mencengkam.
Orang yang paling boleh menyakitkan hati kita ialah dia yang pernah paling kita cintai. Ramai orang yang hancur hidupnya kerana putus cinta. Terlupakah pesan bijak pandai:
“Cintailah sesuatu itu sekadar saja, berkemungkinan ia akan menjadi kebencianmu pada suatu ketika, bencilah yang engkau benci itu sekadar saja, berkemungkinan ia akan menjadi kecintaanmu pada satu ketika.”
Sesetengahnya hilang kewarasan berfikir. Hilang semangat juang. Malah ada yang sanggup bunuh diri. Benarlah kata orang: “Dunia akan terkejut mendengar seseorang membunuh diri kerana kematian ibunya, tetapi tidak akan terkejut apabila pembunuhan diri itu disebabkan kematian kekasih yang dicintainya.”
Justeru, yang minta mati, akibat frust cinta ramai sekali.
(Ingat senikata lagu: Oh, Tuhanku kau cabutlah nyawaku). Buruk sekali keadaan orang yang ‘frust’ dalam bercinta. Inilah salah satu akibat cinta nafsu. Jika kita berani ‘memperkosa’ kesucian cinta, awas ia akan menuntut balas dengan cara yang paling kejam.
Ketahuilah, seseorang pernah gagal dalam percintaan, kemungkinan dia akan terus melihat kebahagiaan itu laksana pelangi. Tidak pernah di kepalanya sendiri, selamanya di atas kepala orang lain. Pesimis. Prejudis. Bagaimana hendak dihadapi segalanya?
Putus cinta adalah bukti bahawa tidak ada cinta sejati kecuali cinta yang diasaskan oleh cinta Allah. Cubalah anda fikirkan, apakah punca pihak sana atau pihak sini memutuskan cintanya? Mungkin kerana hadirnya orang ketiga? Mungkin dihalang oleh orang tua? Mungkin kerana sudah jemu? Macam-macam alasan diberikan. Ketika itu lupa segala sumpah setia, akujanji, lafaz janji yang dimetrai sewaktu sedang ‘syok’ bercinta. Hingga dengan itu mereka yang dikecewakan seolah-olah tidak pernah mengenal orang yang dicintai itu. Dia benar-benar berbeza (seolah-olah dia tidak pernah kita kenali!).
Putus cinta bukanlah pengakhiran segalanya. Ia adalah satu permulaan yang baik jika ditangani dengan positif. Memanglah di awalnya kita rasa sukar menerima hakikat. Tetapi percayalah… kita tetap ada Allah. Semuanya dari Allah. Dan segala yang datang dari Allah ada baik belaka, walaupun belum terserlah kebaikannya pada pandangan kita. Namun yakinlah, pandangan kita terbatas, pandangan Allah Maha Luas. Sesuatu yang kita cintai, belum tentu membawa kebaikan kepada kita. Manakala sesuatu yang kita benci, belum tentu memudaratkan kita.
Sebagai hamba Allah, renungilah maksud firman Allah dalam surah Al Baqarah, ” Ada sesuatu perkara yang kamu cintai tetapi itu membawa keburukan kepada kamu. Ada pula sesuatu perkara yang kamu benci tetapi sebaliknya ia membawa kebaikan kepada kamu. Sedarlah kamu tidak mengetahui, Allah-lah yang lebih mengetahui.”
Kita inginkan orang yang kita cintai itu terus setia bersama kita. Biar sampai menempuh alam perkahwinan, beranak cucu hingga ke akhir hayat. Segala kata pengukuhan telah diberikan.
Kita rasa dialah terbaik untuk kita (you are the answer of my prayer). Tetapi entah macam mana, dia berpaling tadah. Waktu itu kita terhenyak lalu berkata, “mengapa aku terpaksa menanggung derita ini.”Kita frust kerana merasakan dialah yang terbaik, tercantik, ter… ter… segala-galanya. Sukar membayangkan ada orang lain seumpama dia. Cinta diberikan seluruhnya. Ketika si dia pergi tanpa berpaling, kita berkata, “ya Tuhan, kenapa aku yang terpaksa menerima nasib ini?”
Harga diri orang yang putus cinta selalu rendah. Penilaian diri terhadap dirinya sendiri menjunam ke paras terendah. Rasa hina (gagak di rimba) berbanding kekasihnya yang pergi (merak kayangan). Sedangkan jika masih ada iman bersemi di dada… kita masih boleh berfikir dan berhenti seketika, lalu berkata, “Tuhan ada!” Pujuklah hati dengan apa yang telah Allah tegaskan bahawa yang baik pada pandangan kita belum tentu baik dalam realitinya. Katakan, dia yang pergi itu bukan yang terbaik. Mungkin dia terbaik, tapi untuk orang lain. Dan yang terbaik untuk kita pasti datang sebagai gantinya!
Jangan katakan kenapa aku yang kena? Jangan labelkan aku yang malang. Tetapi katakan, aku yang terpilih. Terpilih untuk putus cinta dengan manusia supaya ‘terpaksa’ bercinta dengan Allah. Memang begitulah rahmat Tuhan, kekadang DIA memutuskan untuk menyambungkan. Putus cinta dengan manusia, tersambung cinta dengan Allah. Inilah hikmah di sebalik kesusahan, kemiskinan, kegagalan, dan termasuklah putus dalam bercinta. Dalam ujian kesusahan selalunya manusia lebih mudah ingatkan Allah.
Alangkah indahnya jika orang yang frust cinta itu kembali kepada Allah secara sihat – maksudnya, bukan sekadar merintih, mengadu, merayu atau minta mati segera. Tetapi tersentak oleh satu kesedaran bahawa cinta Allah itulah yang sejati.
Allah tidak pernah mengecewakan seperti kekasih mengecewakan. Seorang filosof Barat, Hendrick berkata, “mencintai seorang yang tidak mencintai kamu adalah sia-sia, menyia-nyiakan orang yang mencintai adalah berbahaya.” Cubalah fikirkan… siapa yang paling mencintai kita? Siapakah yang kita sia-siakan selama ini? Fikir…
Dan tersentak oleh hakikat itu, kita mula berfikir… barangkali putus cinta ini adalah rahmat yang tersirat, “Allah menjemput aku untuk mencintai-Nya!” Sedarlah, bahawa Allah adalah Tuhan yang sentiasa mengasihi kita. Tetapi DIAlah Tuhan yang sering kita sia-siakan. Frust cinta itu hakikatnya untuk menyambungkan cinta kepada-Nya. Ketika itulah orang yang frust cinta akan benar-benar terasa bahawa dia terpilih, bukan tersisih!
Saya punya banyak cerita betapa ramai pasangan suami-isteri yang bahagia bersama ‘orang’ yang mereka tidak sangka apalagi harapkan sebelumnya. “Rugi, buang masa mengenang kekasih dulu.” “Allah ganti yang lebih baik.” “Tak sangka, kami akan serasi begini.” Begitulah suara-suara ‘testimonial’ daripada orang yang frust bercinta tetapi akhirnya berjaya melalui kehidupan berumah-tangga dengan orang yang lebih baik (untuk mereka).
Ya, pada waktu ‘terkena’ dulu belum nampak lagi, sebab itu terasa marah, kecewa, dendam dan benci. Tetapi apabila masa berlalu, segalanya bertukar menjadi syukur, beruntung dan terselamat. Mujur putus dengan dia. Beruntung tidak jadi dengan dia!
Begitulah ilmu kita yang terbatas dibandingkan dengan ilmu Allah yang Maha Luas. Yang penting dalam apa jua keadaan sekalipun, iman mesti diperkukuhkan dalam dada. Ingat Tuhan. Cintailah DIA, pasti Allah akan mendorong orang yang dicintai-Nya untuk mencintai kita. Cinta itu bagai ‘mata rantai’ yang sambung menyambung sesama manusia yang akhirnya bersambung kepada cinta Allah.
Percayalah frust dalam bercinta itu satu ujian. Ujian dalam kehidupan. Ingatlah bahawa alam adalah sebuah ‘sekolah’ yang besar. Setiap manusia adalah para pelajarnya. Dan kita terpaksa belajar berterusan. Hidup adalah satu siri pelajaran yang tersusun rapi untuk difahami dan dihayati sepanjang hayat.
Frust dalam cinta jika ditakdirkan berlaku kepada anda, adalah satu pelajaran juga. Kita perlu faham ‘pelajaran’ yang dibawa bersamanya. Jika difahami, pelajaran-pelajaran ini akan memberi panduan dan suluhan untuk menjalani hidup dengan lebih tenang dan bahagia pada masa akan datang. Tetapi sekiranya pelajaran ini gagal difahami, maka hidup akan huru-hara dan kita akan selalu menghadapi keadaan yang tidak menentu. Kemungkinan besar kita akan ‘frust’ berkali-kali.
Semasa kita di peringkat remaja ada ‘pelajaran-pelajaran’ tertentu yang perlu difahami benar-benar sebelum menghadapi usia dewasa yang jauh lebih mencabar. Apakah ‘pelajaran-pelajaran’ itu dan apakah cara sebaik-baiknya mempelajarinya? Inilah salah satu persoalan penting yang mesti dijawab oleh setiap remaja. Jangan sampai pelajaran yang sepatutnya ‘selesai’ di alam remaja terpaksa dibawa ke peringkat tinggi. Kalau begitu rugilah, sama seperti siswa atau siswi yang terpaksa ‘refer’ atau ‘repeat’ akibat gagal dalam peperiksaan mereka.
Remaja adalah kelompok manusia yang sedang melalui satu proses transisi. Mereka telah meninggalkan alam kanak-kanak tetapi belum mencapai alam dewasa sepenuhnya. (I’m not a girl but not yet a women) Keadaan transisi ini tidak stabil. Umpama air yang hendak bertukar menjadi wap, maka molekul-molekulnya terlebih dahulu bergerak dengan cepat dan tidak menentu.
Samalah dengan remaja, jiwa, akal, nafsu, emosi dan lain-lain elemen-elemen mereka sedang bergolak. Takah usia ini paling tidak stabil – tercari-cari identiti diri, krisis pemikiran, perubahan biologi dan macam-macam lagi. Dan di tahap ini juga remaja akan menemui pelbagai situasi dan kondisi – suka dan duka, kejayaan dan kegagalan, permusuhan dan kasih-sayang, sempadan dan teladan. Muncul pelbagai individu dengan pelbagai kelakuan dan sikap. Terjadi bermacam-macam peristiwa dengan membawa pelbagai kesan. Salah satunya frust dalam bercinta.
Semua ini tidak berlaku sia-sia melainkan ada ‘pelajaran’ yang dibawanya untuk difahami dan dihayati. Remaja mesti dapat membaca ‘mesej’ yang dibawa oleh setiap peristiwa, individu dan keadaan yang berlaku ke atas mereka. Jika tidak, mereka terpaksa mengulangi pelajaran itu berkali-kali. Sebab itu kita pernah temui orang tertentu yang sentiasa berdepan dengan masalah yang sama berulang-ulangkali.
Jadi langkah pertama supaya remaja‘lulus’ dalam pelajaran mereka ialah mereka perlu akur bahawa setiap yang berlaku di alam remaja ada unsur pengajaran dan didikan buat mereka. Frust cinta hakikatnya adalah ‘guru’ yang mengajar kita. Setiap guru mengajar sesuatu yang baik, walaupun kadangkala pahit, pedih dan sakit kita menerimanya.
Untuk itu, apabila putus cinta, hendaklah ditanyakan pada diri, “apakah pelajaran yang disebalik semua itu.” Pandanglah semua yang berlaku ke atas kita ada tujuan yang tertentu, maka barulah hidup kita sentiasa bertujuan. Kata ahli-ahli sufi, setiap yang berlaku dalam hidup ialah ‘mehnah’ – maksudnya didikan terus dari Allah.
Mereka berpendapat bahawa apa sahaja yang berlaku dalam hidup adalah ujian dan ujian itu hakikatnya adalah didikan terus daripada Tuhan. Ahli sufi menambah lagi bahawa jika manusia tidak mampu dididik melalui didikan terus dari Allah (mehanah) maka manusia tersebut tidak akan dapat dididik lagi oleh sebarang manusia lain. Inilah yang ditegaskan oleh Ibnu Attoillah, seorang sufi yang terkenal dalam buku-buku karangannya.
Jika seorang datang membuat kita kecewa, maka dia adalah ‘guru’ yang hendak mengajar kita erti sabar. Jika kita rasa kita sedang dikecewakan, itu menunjukkan kita sedang belajar untuk membina sikap tidak terlalu mengharap. Begitulah seterusnya dalam apa jua situasi dan masa, kita hakikatnya sedang belajar dan dididik.
Memang pada lahirnya, manusia, peristiwa dan kejadian yang sedang bertindak ke atas kita tetapi sedarilah hakikatnya semua itu adalah datang dari Allah. Semuanya berlaku dengan izin Tuhan, yang dengan itu DIA hendak mendidik kita. Maka terimalah didikan itu dengan baik.
Apakah sebenarnya yang menjadi ‘tujuan’ di sebalik pelajaran-perlajaran yang datang dalam hidup kita? Tujuan utamanya ialah untuk mengubah kita. Perubahan tidak dapat dielakkan justeru hidup adalah satu proses perubahan yang berterusan. Yang tidak berubah dalam hidup adalah perubahan itu sendiri. Perubahan sentiasa berlaku dan ia diluar kawalan kita. Kita tidak dapat mengawal hati ‘kekasih hati’ agar dia sentiasa setia.
Apa yang boleh kita ubah ialah diri kita sendiri. Jadi, berubahlah mengikut haluan dan kawalan kita sendiri. Jangan izinkan orang lain hatta kekasih kita mengawal hidup kita. Sehubungan itu, bijak pandai pernah berkata, “we cannot direct the wind but we can adjust our sail.” Ertinya, walaupun kita tidak boleh menentukan takdir yang menimpa tetapi kita diberi kuasa oleh-Nya untuk mentadbir diri kita.
Malangnya, ramai manusia yang ingin memegang takdirnya sendiri. Dia seolah-olah ingin jadi ‘Tuhan”. Dia ingin semua keinginannya tercapai. Mustahil, manusia hakikatnya lemah. Dia tidak boleh mengawal hati kekasihnya. Dia tidak boleh memastikan kesetiaan kekasihnya. Ingat, mencintai seseorang bukanlah bererti mengatur segala langkah dan perbuatannya demi cinta. Kita tak akan mampu!
Ringkasnya, ujian hidup datang dengan pelajaran, dan pelajaran itu datang bersama tuntutan perubahan. Jika sudah berkali-kali pelajaran disampaikan, tetapi masih tidak ada perubahan, maka itu bermakna remaja gagal dalam ‘sekolah’ kehidupan mereka. Frust cinta, hakikatnya adalah ujian yang ingin merubah kita untuk mula mencintai Allah.
Ingat, setiap kali sesuatu menimpa anda, samada baik atau buruk. Itu adalah pelajaran yang menuntut perubahan. Maka ubahlah diri kita selalu, ke arah yang baik, lebih baik dan cemerlang. Setiap detik, setiap ketika, ada sahaja peristiwa yang akan anda hadapi… maka belajarlah secara berterusan, dan berubahlah secara berterusan… Nanti anda akan mencapai kebaikan secara berterusan pula. Jangan sekali-kali menangguhkan pelajaran, nanti anda akan menangguhkan perubahan dan akhirnya menangguhkan datangnya kebaikan.
Belajarlah dari sekolah kehidupan semasa remaja lagi, supaya anda tidak diburu penyesalan apabila mencapai usia tua. Kata pepatah, “belajar sewaktu muda bagai melukis di atas batu, belajar sewaktu tua bagai melukis di atas air.” Teringat kata Dale Carnargie dalam bukunya Stop Worrying and start living, “jangan gergaji abuk kayu!” Dan itulah nasib orang tua yang tidak belajar semasa mudanya!
Kita perlu sedar, hidup ini bagaikan satu siri gelombang yang datang secara bergilir-gilir. Ada ketikanya, gelombang kecil dan tenang dan ada ketikanya gelombang itu besar dan ganas. Pada ketika gelombang itu ganaslah, semuanya terasa serba tidak kena. Tuhan menetapkan bahawa setiap manusia itu tidak akan mendapat kesenangan sahaja atau kesusahan sahaja.
Masing-masing daripada kita akan mengalami pasang-surut dalam hidup – ada masa senang, ada masa susah. Justeru dalam kehidupan ini, kita tidak boleh terlalu gembira kerana selepas kegembiraan itu mungkin muncul kesusahan. Begitu juga kita tidak boleh terlalu sedih bila kesusahan kerana mungkin selepas itu Allah swt datangkan perkara-perkara yang menggembirakan.
Kesedaran tentang hukum Sunnahtullah ini akan memberi ketenangan dalam hidup. Apabila kita ditimpa kesusahan, rasakan dalam hati… ya, selepas ini akan datang kesenangan. Sabarlah sebentar. Dan apabila datang kesenangan, kita tetap tidak alpa… ya, selepas ini akan datang kesusahan. Bersiap-sedialah. Hakikatnya, tidak ada kesenangan dan kesusahan yang abadi di dunia ini. Kehidupan adalah satu pergiliran antara senang dan susah yang berterusan…
Cabaran kita bukan untuk mengawal perubahan ‘cuaca’ kehidupan itu tetapi mengubah diri bagi menyesuaikan diri dalam setiap keadaan yang berubah-ubah itu. Fahamilah hakikat ini. Apabila kita frust dalam bercinta terimalah bahawa itu adalah hakikat hidup. Hidup bukanlah yang serba kena, serba senang dan serba mudah. Hidup tidak selalu indah, kerana di situlah keindahan hidup!
Sematkan di hati kata pujangga ini:“Sesungguhnya orang yang berkali-kali gagal bercinta, pada suatu saat akan bertemu jua…cinta sejati yang ditunggunya!”
Friday, February 18, 2011
Plan!
Assalamualaikum,
"If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. One should plan 4 his akhirah. If you are not planning to go to Jannah,you are actually planning to go to An-Nar" [Dr.Bilal Philips]
Looking from the self-made picture [for example purposes only] and the mentioned quote, you know what I'll be talking about right?
Yes, about planning!
Well, I don't have to go deeper into this because it's plain simple and pretty much self-explanatory.
If you fail to plan, then you are planning to fail. Of course it's Allah who decides everything but He did say:
"... Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves " [Ar-Ra'd:11]
By planning, you'll have the satisfaction of observing your successes and failures and take appropriate actions to improve what's good and fix what's not.
And,well.....sometimes things do not turn out like what you have planned it to be. Do not despair and keep your faith in Allah coz you'll never know what better things He has stored in for you. He'll give it to you when the time is right.
**Self reminder
So for some period until dot2 month I've planned and taken action to make one of my dreams [not in the picture FYI] a realization. Can't wait to meet you, Suhaan! <3
So people, let's plan!!!!!! =)
toddles~
salam~~
IKLAN: AK, I've put the "like" function just like you requested....haha...20 sen bak mai!
Monday, February 14, 2011
Overwhelmed~
Out of no where I found this beautiful article:
HERE
Getting more and more unwell, syafakillah dear self~~
Alhamdulillah tomorrow's a holiday so I can rest a bit =)
toddles~
salam~~
HERE
Getting more and more unwell, syafakillah dear self~~
Alhamdulillah tomorrow's a holiday so I can rest a bit =)
toddles~
salam~~
Thursday, February 10, 2011
15 Inspiring Statements- Let's get Inspired!
1. Print this out.
2. Hang it somewhere you will see it everywhere.
3. Share with others
4. Insha’Allaah get inspired to be the best Muslim you can!
“And I (Allaah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone). [51:56]
”Who has created death and life, that He may test you which of you is best in deed. And He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving;” [67:2]
”If Allah wants to favor someone, He grants him comprehension (understanding) of this religion.” [Sahih Bukhari]
“The best of people are those with the most excellent character.” (Tabarani, Sahih)
♥ 3 Things to Always Remember ♥ (1) Created: to worship Allaah (2) Goal: Jannatul Ferdose, the highest level of heaven (3) Plan: follow the Qur’aan and Sunnah with sincerity and excellence
“When we have an exam the next day, we stay up all night. If we have a paper due, we get up early to complete it. If we wake up late for school or work, we rush to get dressed. But, when it comes to the duties of Allaah, we couldn’t be lazier! When it comes to the duties of Allaah, we are so relaxed! When it comes to the duties of Allaah, we put our desires first! When will we set our priorities straight?!”
*When things get tough just remember*: (1) This life is a test and Allaah is testing us (2) This dunya is very short and then comes the Day of Judgement (3) Remember the trials of the Prophets, Shahabas, Scholars, and have patience (4) With patience comes immense reward (5) Death is at our doorstep and what really matters is if you obeyed Allaah’s commands or not.
”The Balance (in which man’s deeds will be weighed) will measure everything with the utmost precision, either in a person’s favour or against him: (hen shall anyone who has done an atom’s weight of good, see it! And anyone who has done an atom’s weight of evil, shall see it.) (Qur’an 99:7-8)”
Patience and victory are twin brothers, for victory comes with patience, relief comes with distress and ease comes with hardship. “Surely, Allah is with those who are As-Sabirun (the patient).” (Al-Anfal 8:46)
”The believer sees his sins as if he is sitting at the foot of a mountain fearing that it might fall on him, while the sinner (fâjir) sees his sins as a fly that lands on his nose, he just waves it away”. [‘Abdullah b. Mas’ûd]
”Perhaps a great deed is belittled by an intention. And perhaps a small deed, by sincere intention, is made great”. [Abdullah ibn Mubarak]
When you put your hope for love, praise, success, happiness, and recognition in the people, you will walk away disappointed with a broken heart. It is only when you put this hope in Allaah will your heart and soul find peace, relief, and pleasure. Indeed Allaah speaks the truth in the Qur’aan: “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest. (13:28)
”Whosoever intended to perform a Good deed, but did not do it, then Allaah writes it down with Himself as a complete Good deed. And if he intended to perform it and then did perform it, then Allaah writes it down with Himself as from ten Good deeds upto seven hundred times, up to many times multiplied…” [Bukhari]
“I swear by Allah, there is nothing sweeter than the obedience of Allah! And I swear by Allah, there is
nothing more bitter than the disobedience of Allah! Sins give you a temporary pleasure followed by pain, sadness, regret, remorse, while good deeds give you pleasure and happiness in this life and the next. Which one sounds better to you?”
”Every time we slip in worship, we may almost feel like giving up thinking, “It’s too hard”. But then, tell yourself that this is the whispers of Shaytaan. Allaah loves our repentance and loves it when we struggle to please Him. If we fall once, then we get right up and try, try again to worship and please Him by following the Qur’aan and Sunnah. If we fall for the millionth time, then we get up for the millionth time and keep up the struggle!”
source: awesome tumblr [and also here]
2. Hang it somewhere you will see it everywhere.
3. Share with others
4. Insha’Allaah get inspired to be the best Muslim you can!
“And I (Allaah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone). [51:56]
”Who has created death and life, that He may test you which of you is best in deed. And He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving;” [67:2]
”If Allah wants to favor someone, He grants him comprehension (understanding) of this religion.” [Sahih Bukhari]
“The best of people are those with the most excellent character.” (Tabarani, Sahih)
♥ 3 Things to Always Remember ♥ (1) Created: to worship Allaah (2) Goal: Jannatul Ferdose, the highest level of heaven (3) Plan: follow the Qur’aan and Sunnah with sincerity and excellence
“When we have an exam the next day, we stay up all night. If we have a paper due, we get up early to complete it. If we wake up late for school or work, we rush to get dressed. But, when it comes to the duties of Allaah, we couldn’t be lazier! When it comes to the duties of Allaah, we are so relaxed! When it comes to the duties of Allaah, we put our desires first! When will we set our priorities straight?!”
*When things get tough just remember*: (1) This life is a test and Allaah is testing us (2) This dunya is very short and then comes the Day of Judgement (3) Remember the trials of the Prophets, Shahabas, Scholars, and have patience (4) With patience comes immense reward (5) Death is at our doorstep and what really matters is if you obeyed Allaah’s commands or not.
”The Balance (in which man’s deeds will be weighed) will measure everything with the utmost precision, either in a person’s favour or against him: (hen shall anyone who has done an atom’s weight of good, see it! And anyone who has done an atom’s weight of evil, shall see it.) (Qur’an 99:7-8)”
Patience and victory are twin brothers, for victory comes with patience, relief comes with distress and ease comes with hardship. “Surely, Allah is with those who are As-Sabirun (the patient).” (Al-Anfal 8:46)
”The believer sees his sins as if he is sitting at the foot of a mountain fearing that it might fall on him, while the sinner (fâjir) sees his sins as a fly that lands on his nose, he just waves it away”. [‘Abdullah b. Mas’ûd]
”Perhaps a great deed is belittled by an intention. And perhaps a small deed, by sincere intention, is made great”. [Abdullah ibn Mubarak]
When you put your hope for love, praise, success, happiness, and recognition in the people, you will walk away disappointed with a broken heart. It is only when you put this hope in Allaah will your heart and soul find peace, relief, and pleasure. Indeed Allaah speaks the truth in the Qur’aan: “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest. (13:28)
”Whosoever intended to perform a Good deed, but did not do it, then Allaah writes it down with Himself as a complete Good deed. And if he intended to perform it and then did perform it, then Allaah writes it down with Himself as from ten Good deeds upto seven hundred times, up to many times multiplied…” [Bukhari]
“I swear by Allah, there is nothing sweeter than the obedience of Allah! And I swear by Allah, there is
nothing more bitter than the disobedience of Allah! Sins give you a temporary pleasure followed by pain, sadness, regret, remorse, while good deeds give you pleasure and happiness in this life and the next. Which one sounds better to you?”
”Every time we slip in worship, we may almost feel like giving up thinking, “It’s too hard”. But then, tell yourself that this is the whispers of Shaytaan. Allaah loves our repentance and loves it when we struggle to please Him. If we fall once, then we get right up and try, try again to worship and please Him by following the Qur’aan and Sunnah. If we fall for the millionth time, then we get up for the millionth time and keep up the struggle!”
source: awesome tumblr [and also here]
Giving Up?
"And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient," [Al-Baqarah: 155]
Trying to stay positive and holding on a bit longer.....................................
I am not a quitter!
Hwaiting!
Allahu Musta'an~~
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
"I should be ashamed of myself"
why is that so?
Because of this :OMMI <------kelik
Listen to her utterances, all praises to Allah, no complaints, no regrets
"God Almighty sends me some sickness and then takes it away. God is with me..."
SubhanAllah! Allah bless you ya ommi!
May we all be a grateful person,Ameen Ya Rabb
toddles~
salam~~
Because of this :OMMI <------kelik
Listen to her utterances, all praises to Allah, no complaints, no regrets
"God Almighty sends me some sickness and then takes it away. God is with me..."
SubhanAllah! Allah bless you ya ommi!
May we all be a grateful person,Ameen Ya Rabb
toddles~
salam~~
Thursday, January 20, 2011
B.E.L.O.G
I managed not to blog anything yesterday....yeah because I was suppperrr busy [lah sgt]
Anyhoos, today I'm gonna talk about BELOG/BLOG and everything related to it.
First things first, let's define what is a BLOG?
As the clever Wiki said:
A blog (a blend of the term web log)[1] is a type of website or part of a website. Blogs are usually maintained by an individual with regular entries of commentary, descriptions of events, or other material such as graphics or video. Entries are commonly displayed in reverse-chronological order. Blog can also be used as a verb, meaning to maintain or add content to a blog.
Most blogs are interactive, allowing visitors to leave comments and even message each other via widgets on the blogs and it is this interactivity that distinguishes them from other static websites [pesanan penaja, jgn copy-paste sebijik sebajak kedalam kertas kerja universitas ye...budak kecik pun boleh buat kalau gitu, xpyh masuk U]
Simply
This brings us to the second point: WHAT DO WE BLOG ABOUT?
Well, that depends on the individuals themselves. Some love to share everything about themselves, from the time they get up until the end of the day. Some express mushy stuffs, some express their obsessions with cats, stems, PS3 [ok, ni semua contoh], WHILE others like to send beneficial messages, very informative with all valid quotes and resources. Others include writing about assignments, works, putting random videos, RECIPES!, selling stuffs [Online Shopping Blogs] and many many more.
WHAT DO WE GET FROM IT?
Satisfaction- knowledge - an active working brain- improvements
As for me, I had always enjoyed writing. Not anything specific per-say, just writing and it can be anything. I used to write diaries and I had those colourful, with a little lock and scented diaries when I was a teen. Luckily it went missing after some time, if not, gue harus malu membacanya, xkental lah derr tulis2 dlm diary ni. Well, it happened a million years ago...hoho.
As time pass by, humans were bombarded with the Internet penetration and people started socializing virtually, world-widely. [lol, ni mcm ayat2 paperwork kelas comp app ja]. Came along all the friendster, twitter, myspace,facebook and whatnots and not to forget the BLOG.
I was seduced by my sweet gorgeous mom-to-be-in-a-couple-of-months friend, Mrs.E/S to create my own blog. I vaguely remembered that she loves me writing [correct me if I'm wrong ye dear...hehe]. So, then I started blogging. At first, I only wrote rubbish and nonsensical stuffs. Stuffs that was not that kental and beneficial but did suffice my dissatisfaction about a certain someone or two [oh, how stupid!]. Gradually, I became wiser [nak jugak tu] and tried to keep my lines a bit, reader friendly and beneficial [ a bit lah], inshaAllah that is =)
The positive impact and this is talking personally, by blogging, it has helped me to keep my brains active and have a sense of control so whenever there's a sudden test or POP quiz or whatever writings need to be done in the classroom, I'd be prepared. You know, to goreng the sentences, LOL
Besides blogging, I also love to blog hop. I read blogs of assortment. You name it. From young married couples blogs, young mothers blogs, a chain of siblings blogs, Islamic fashionistas blogs, inspirational blogs, Islamic blogs and those miscellaneous blogs [which I see is quite similar to mine...hehe ]. But, I don't see a lot of men writing because men are known to be sssooo masculin till they find it not macho to express their thoughts. I do read some but there aren't many [or they hide behind a girls identity? wallahu 'alam]. Men were known to be good writers back then, during the age of WW1 and WW2 so that's very impressive to me.
I think it's good to write. Especially if you want to improve something out of you. Your language sense maybe? Weak in English? So write in English? apa? malu takut org gelak grammar berterabur? lor pedulik kan mereka, mereka bukan kasi duit beli beras pun. A wise person, instead of bashing people for their courage to improve, tries to share a thing or two of what they know so that knowledge is spread and not kept to rot unused.
Of course there will also be these people [also known as creepy anons ] who don't have a life or probably don't know how to blog that will pest your way or they might disagree with some of your thoughts. Just let them be and keep on doing what you're good at. I had those anon times, they are such joy to my eyes =)
So, I think that's all for today. Hope some of you did read this entry until the end....hehe....Happy blogging to all bloggers and happy
Till then,
toddles~
salam~~
Monday, January 17, 2011
Make Me Strong
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I know I’m waiting
Waiting for something
Something to happen to me
But this waiting comes with
Trials and challenges
Nothing in life is free
I wish that somehow
You’d tell me out aloud
That on that day I’ll be ok
But we’ll never know cause
That’s not the way it works
Help me find my way
My Lord show me right from wrong
Give me light make me strong
I know the road is long
Make me strong
Sometimes it just gets too much
I feel that I’ve lost touch
I know the road is long
Make me strong
I know I’m waiting
Yearning for something
Something known only to me
This waiting comes with
Trials and challenges
Life is one mystery
I wish that somehow
You’d tell me out aloud
That on that day you’ll forgive me
But we’ll never know cause
That’s not the way it works
I beg for your mercy
My Lord show me right from wrong
Give me light make me strong
I know the road is long
Make me strong
Sometimes it just gets too much
I feel that I’ve lost touch
I know the road is long
Make me strong
Words: Sami Yusuf
Music: Sami Yusuf
Produced by Sami Yusuf
I know I’m waiting
Waiting for something
Something to happen to me
But this waiting comes with
Trials and challenges
Nothing in life is free
I wish that somehow
You’d tell me out aloud
That on that day I’ll be ok
But we’ll never know cause
That’s not the way it works
Help me find my way
My Lord show me right from wrong
Give me light make me strong
I know the road is long
Make me strong
Sometimes it just gets too much
I feel that I’ve lost touch
I know the road is long
Make me strong
I know I’m waiting
Yearning for something
Something known only to me
This waiting comes with
Trials and challenges
Life is one mystery
I wish that somehow
You’d tell me out aloud
That on that day you’ll forgive me
But we’ll never know cause
That’s not the way it works
I beg for your mercy
My Lord show me right from wrong
Give me light make me strong
I know the road is long
Make me strong
Sometimes it just gets too much
I feel that I’ve lost touch
I know the road is long
Make me strong
Words: Sami Yusuf
Music: Sami Yusuf
Produced by Sami Yusuf
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Zindagi ek safar
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim,
I just read late Mas Afzal's blog where his mom is now writing in it and I just couldn't help myself from not being inspired again and again. MashaAllah, such a soul. The picture where he performed his solah despite his condition was really awe inspiring.
Frankly speaking, I am so envious of him. He's physically no longer in this world but what he left behind seems to be his ongoing 'profit'. He has touched so many hearts, be it the people whom personally knew him or the ones who saw his video and read his writings [I'm one of the thousands in this category]
So I ask myself; If my time came, how would I be remembered? what would I be remembered for? will I be remembered?
Abu Qataadah rahimahullaah reported that Allaah's Messenger sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "The best that a man can leave behind after his death are three things: a righteous child who makes du'aa for him, an ongoing sadaqah whose rewards continue to reach him, and a knowledge that continues to be implemented after him." (Ibn Maajah, and others. Verified to be sahih by al-Mundhiri and al-Albaanee).
Three. Only three will become our 'ongoing profit' in the hereafter. So which one will become my 'profit'? let's ask ourselves that question T_T
For a fact, I want to [and I should] live my life with a meaningful purpose. To continue being inspired and share a little bit of the inspirations with my everyone I know so we can benefit from the beautiful inspirations together.
Life in this world is not forever but we tend to act contradict to that fact,right? That's why we need to be reminded from time to time. We need to remind ourselves that life is short and there's 'somewhere' that we'll go after this and that 'somewhere' is an eternal resting place. Surely we want to have the best-est eternal resting place? :)
"Every soul will taste death. Then to Us will you be returned." (Al-Ankabut:57)
Allah.....Our sole creator. From Him we came and unto Him shall we return. So, it is unto Him we should seek help, forgiveness and to guide us to the right path.
Alas, let's make the best out of our life shall we? :)
EAR CANDY CATCHES TO THE SOUL :) <--kelik lah
Wallahu 'alam.
toddles~
salam~~
Friday, December 31, 2010
'ilm
KHUTBAH JUMAAT 219 – 31 DISEMBER 2010
MEMELIHARA MARUAH DAN KEHORMATAN WANITA ISLAM
Sidang Jumaat yang dimuliakan Allah
Saya memperingatkan diri sendiri, dan menyampaikan pesanan taqwa serta tuntutan bertaqwa untuk kepada Allah, kepada semua hadirin Jumaat. Keimanan itu dicetuskan menerusi hati, dan ianya mesti dizahirkan penegasannya menerusi lisan, malah diaplikasikan pelaksanaannya dengan kemampuan, kekuatan dan kebolehan yang diberikan. My fellow muslims, let me remind myself, and remind the rest of you to attain taqwa and piety. This journey calls life, is meant to worship allah and continuously upgrading our commitment towards what is ordained, and avoidance of what is prohibited.
My fellow brothers
There is no text, old or new, that deals with the humanity of the woman from all aspects with such amazing brevity, eloquence, depth, and originality as this divine decree right from the first verse of surah An Nisa’, ‘O mankind, be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from Him (Adam) He created his wife (Hawwa’), and from them both He created many men and women; And fear Allah through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship), surely Allah is Ever All Watcher over you’. In the sight of Allah, women are completely equated with men with a clear cut statement in terms of rights and responsibilites. In surah an Nahl verse 97, Allah says ‘Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he (or she) is a true believer, verily, to him, We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best (paradise in the hereafter) of what they used to do’. This is a tender touch of Islamic teachings, indicate and educate all men of believers to respect women of believers. The men are responsibilities for the women’s dignity and security. The husband must be the shield to protect his wife from any harmful and disgrace. And by doing so, we as men, must enhance our knowledge about responsibilites towards women, and must perform the obligations given by Allah to ensure that the rights are delivered to women in full. It is so unfortunate to witness too many men misplaced the trust that Allah has given to them, when it comes to preserve the dignity and the rights of women. Many marriages turn into despair and one of the biggest factors is the incompetence of the husband to fulfil his duty as a husband. They prefer to put front their angerness and egoistic character above all rational and relevant issues. They mistreated their wife with violence and disrecpect. What makes this type of poor performance men escaped from current punishments has also got to do with the ignorance of women themselves to understand and pick up their rights as widely discussed and precisely presented in surah an Nur and other various places in the Quran. Based on Islamic history, Islam has produced richness with great achievements by women in all walks of life. Western was slowly accepted the rights of women very recently in the last century, but Islam has established it right from the beginning. It is impossible for anyone to justify any mistreatment of woman by any decree of rule embodied in the Islamic Law, nor could anyone dare to cancel, reduce, or distort the crystal clear legal rights of women given in Islamic Law. As for the western continents and their policies of embedding the concept of liberalisation of women and full freedom, it is also worthwhile to state that the status which women reached during the present era was not achieved due to the kindness of men or due to natural progress. It was rather achieved through a long struggle and sacrifice on woman's part and only when society needed her contribution and work, and due to the escalation of technological change. But in Islam, the dignified status of women was decreed way earlier, because of its intrinsic truthfulness, which, unlike human philosophies and ideologies, was far from proceeding from its human environment, a message which established such humane principles as neither grew obsolete during the course of time and after these many centuries, nor can become obsolete in the future. After all, this is the message of the All Wise and All Knowing God whose wisdom and knowledge are far beyond the ultimate in human thought and progress.
Sidang Jumaat yang dirahmati Allah
Saya menasihati diri saya, dan menggesa kebersamaan hadirin sekalian, untuk kita berperanan menjadi lelaki yang bertanggungjawab pada wanita, menjadi suami yang berlaku baik dan memuliakan isteri, menjadi lelaki yang memandang tinggi maruah dan kehormatan wanita, menjadi lelaki yang tidak mengeksploitasi tuntutan keduniaan dengan menjadikan wanita sebagai ruang untuk mengambil kesempatan, menjadi lelaki yang bersungguh-sungguh dalam memahami tugasan dan memperkemaskan pengetahuan berkaitan hak dan kewajipan yang wajib ditunaikan kepada wanita, menjadi lelaki yang berperanan dalam masyarakat untuk menaikkan martabat wanita Islam malah memelihara mereka daripada sebarang kemungkaran dan kemaksiatan, menjadi lelaki yang tidak menyumbang dalam apa jua cara, baik secara langsung atau pun tidak langsung kepada keruntuhan nilai kemanusiaan wanita. Benarlah apa yang disabdakan oleh Rasulullah, ‘ Tidak aku tinggalkan kepada kamu satu fitnah (ujian) yang paling memudaratkan (sukar untuk dihadapi) oleh kaum lelaki, melainkan (ujian itu) datang daripada wanita’. Ujian yang dimaksudkan dalam hadith ini tidak sesekali merujuk bahawa wanita perlu dipersalahkan setiap kali masalah sosial melanda kehidupan. Ia juga tidak menunjukkan kelemahan wanita untuk mengawal selia diri mereka sendiri. Tetapi lebih dari itu, ianya memberikan penegasan bahawa kaum lelaki perlu turut sama bekerjasama membantu wanita dalam berperibadi mulia. Lelaki tidak seharusnya menggunakan status jantina untuk menghalang wanita daripada mendapatkan kewajaran haknya. hanya lelaki yang jahil ilmunya sahaja yang akan menyatakan bahawa ujian wanita kepada mereka hanyalah atas faktor godaan dan kecantikan. Ia sebenarnya merupakan ujian dan medan melaksanakan tanggungjawab berat selaku lelaki. Baginda turut bersabda, ‘Wanita-wanita itu adalah adik-adik perempuan kepada kamu (wahai lelaki)’. Nabi memberikan perumpamaan tanggungjawab kepada lelaki bahawa secara logiknya, walaupun seseorang lelaki dalam keluarga itu tidak sempurna akhlak dan nilai murni diri, mereka tetap akan mempunyai sifat dan karektor untuk sentiasa melindungi adik perempuannya. Naluri selaku pelindung kepada maruah dan keselamatan diri adik perempuannya itulah yang menjadikan dirinya memahami malah melaksanakan tanggungjawabnya dalam keluarga. Seandainya ini dipegang oleh semua lelaki, output ini mungkin ideal pada sekilas pandang, tetapi ia nanti akan mewujudkan generasi dan zaman di mana wanita akan dihormati dan diselamatkan daripada segala fitrah kebejatan akhlak dan kerosakan sosial. Selagi lelaki tidak memahami tuntutan ini, selagi itulah wanita akan terperangkap dalam masyarakat yang hanya memuji penampilan, pakaian dan kecantikannya untuk kepentingan peribadi dan keuntungan organisasi, dan bukan satu penghormatan hakiki. Apabila lelaki atau mana-mana suami berperibadi sebegini, maka layaklah ia untuk mendapat hak ketaatan wanita atau isterimya. Dengan perkahwinan, seorang wanita mengorbankan ketaatannya hanya untuk suaminya. Nilai ketaatan itu amat tinggi dan bukan mudah untuk diberi. Tetapi ianya didedikasi kepada suami, lantaran tugasan, bebanan, tanggungjawab dan amanah suaminya adalah setinggi kalam Ilahi dalam ayat ke 6 surah at Tahrim, ‘Wahai orang-orang yang beriman, peliharalah dirimu dan peliharalah ali keluargamu daripada api neraka (sebab dan perbuatan yang membawa ia dan ahli keluarganya ke lembah kehinaan)’. Wahai sekalian lelaki, para suami dan ketua diri serta keluarga, ingatlah pesan dan wasiat nanti ketika khutbah terakhirnya dengan lafaz ‘Bertaqwalah kamu pada wanita (urusan hak dan tanggungjawab kamu ke atas wanita)’. Juga hadith daripada Abdullah bin Amru bin Al ‘As, bahawa Baginda Rasulullah S.A.W. bersabda, ‘Cukuplah bagi seseorang (lelaki) itu (menjadi) berdosa dengan (kelemahannya) mensia-siakan orang yang ia (bertanggungjawab) memberi saraan hidup (ahli keluarganya)’.
Barakallahu li walakum
Mohd Erfino Johari
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